• glitchdx@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    No anon, you became who you were meant to be in spite of your parents. You just be careful about it, ok?

    Is what I would say if op was anon, but op isn’t anon so obviously the whole thing is fake and gay (which I’d like to remind everyone is not a bad thing).

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    16 hours ago

    Probably a bit of both, anon

    But in reality it’s not fucked up, it’s just who you are and what you like, though again your tight ass upbringing may have given you some ideas

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    19 hours ago

    Not hopeless, just overcompensating from the freedom.

    OP needs to strongly consider whether he:

    1. actually likes doing those things, or
    2. is just entranced/aroused by being able to do things that would be otherwise forbidden by his family and culture.

    Either is OK, but when being the source of that behaviour, the former is a lot more healthy than the latter.

  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    Parents: “You should be punished for having romantic feelings and a sense of independence”

    Me: “I reflexively and ritualistically punish myself whenever I’m feeling romantic or pursuing independence”

    Nah. Nothing here that I can see.

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        14 hours ago

        I don’t really think we need to manufacture any more. The way I see it, there’s already a natural surplus of bottoms.

        • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org
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          13 hours ago

          natural surplus

          Don’t you mean national surplus, or global surplus? Or maybe bottoms are just more naturally created?

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      21 hours ago

      I’m not saying everyone raised catholic wants a partner who dresses like a nun and makes you call them Mother Superior, but I am saying those are the ones I hang out with

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      7 hours ago

      My Catholic friend had most pleasure removed from sex. He doesn’t see it as filthy or sinful, but is very nervous by the prospect of disease and pregnancy. He still enjoys having sex because his partners have loved it, and he likes making them happy.

      It’s more of a game of how quickly/often he can make them climax. For him it is just kind of boring and getting in the way of sleeping/cuddling which he finds much more pleasant.

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      12 hours ago

      Its definitely true and there’s a lot of correlation between sexual assault/misconduct and repression though doing science here is obviously really hard so all I can share is some personal anecdotes.

      I see a lot of sex tourists here in Thailand (and Vietnam where I lived previously) from repressed countries like middle east region and India and its scary how badly these people are behaving to the point where they are banned from many sex avenues. I had a fried who basically was a Islam virgin and a complete sexual retard and obviously very promiscuous when detached from that until he managed to grow up in a year or two.

      Religious sexual repression is scary. My pet theory is that middle east problems would be solved if every dude was just handed a pocket pussy when they turn 16 lol

      I know my comment isn’t directly about catholicism but its the same thing no matter which religion is enforcing the repression.

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      20 hours ago

      I think, as with most things, it’s a continuum. On one end, they are pretty chill and at the other end are the extremists that are convinced exposed shoulders will instantly corrupt anyone with a penis.

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    23 hours ago

    The dilemma of the chicken or the egg problem