• GorbinOutOverHere [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    I flipped a guy off two or three weeks ago because he blew through a four way stop and almost got either of us killed. Well he did a u turn and blew through the stop again and followed me home and yelled at me about how I “shouldn’t do that because dangerous people will hurt me” and I asked if he was warning me or threatening me and he said “I’m threatening you” and then shoved me against my car before trying to run me over while I got his license plate number

    I still haven’t gone to the cops and a small part of why is everybody acts like I’m the fucking asshole. “You shouldn’t have done that” from my girlfriend, brother, parents. FUCK YOU. I made a rude gesture because someone did something dangerous that could have gotten someone killed. I’m not the fucking asshole here. Maybe if I weren’t male I’d get more sympathy but instead it’s like “woops you fucked around and found out” and it’s my fault instead of this person being utterly fucking insane.

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      Asshole tries to kill you, but you’re slightly rude to him in response. He responds by trying to kill you again. PLAY STUPID GAMES WIN STUPID PRIZES!!!

      */s

    • A friend of mine was shot and killed over a road rage incident. The shooter was illegally carrying the gun, got off with a slap on the wrist. My friend was black, the shooter was white. Happened just outside the city limits of Portland.

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      Great example of not being submissive ended up risking your life. The lesson here is to always be submissive.

      🥺👉👈

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      Your assailant is going to hurt or kill another person with his reckless driving. The right answer here is to preserve and protect your life and your family’s, as their reprimand was warning not to escalate with the frothingfash for your safety as well as theirs.

      But what happened to you were crimes. At least Assault and battery, reckless driving, and menacing.

      Either way, I hope you never run into this person again. Maybe get a dash cam with a cloud.

      • GorbinOutOverHere [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        But what happened to you were crimes. At least Assault and battery, reckless driving, and menacing.

        Yeah and I’m pretty sure backing his car up at me while I took a picture of his license plate is literally felony assault with a deadly weapon

        I thought about going to the police just in case him having a record of this shit might matter or prevent him from hurting someone else but it just, idk, I barely have the energy to live my life and I’m worried it would turn into some draining ordeal that I wouldn’t be able to cope with. Idk.

    • Belden_Road_Initiative [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      I do pretty regularly flip people off on the road when they are acting crazy, but one time a car almost side swiped me and I honked and flipped the driver off as second nature. The young girl driving the car was mortified and I really hated the way I acted. Can’t avoid using a car in Amerikkka unfortunately and I see how it can turn people into monsters.

    • 1nt3rd1m3nt10n4l [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      IDK, you should’ve shot him for shoving you. That’s my take.

      Acknowledge the world that you live in, and do the things that you have to, to get by in it.

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          Maybe.

          escalating to murder is rarely a good time.

          It’s not an escalation if that’s exactly what the chud that assaulted them came there to do, which it sounds like it was from reading their post.

          At some fucking point you have to actually be willing to defend yourself & your interests against those that would seek to destroy them, and the way you do that in the material world is through violence.

          The only other alternative here, that I can see, is to just not have fucking opinions of any kind, and to accept ones role as an entirely passive social object. Is that what you think the correct option is?

            • HumanBehaviorByBjork [any, undecided]@hexbear.net
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              The thing I love about the internet is you can say something banal like for example that killing people is bad and should only be done when absolutely necessary and someone will read it and it’s like it’s the first time they’ve ever encountered the idea

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              you need to find a way to feel some agency in the world without wanting everyone who insults you dead.

              Did we read the same fucking comment? Because my response was not about an incident where somebody just shouted at another user on the street & calling them a “pinko commie f*g”, or something like that.

              What happened was, that GorbinOut very nearly got into a fatally injurious car collision due to another drivers malicious behavior. They insulted that driver; who then proceeded to follow them home & assault them, eventually with that same vehicle; and my response to that is “you need to be able to defend yourself, possibly by ending this kind of freaks life, before they end yours”.

              At what fucking point is this an unreasonable conclusion to draw from this series of events?

      • Fuckass [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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        The constitution allows me to shoot at a family of 5 on the highway while we’re both driving 80 miles per hour. It does not allow you to be a special snowflake about “racism”

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      Had a similar situation. Stare a guy down and yelled at him to slow down when he blew past us at like 50 mph in my neighborhood while I’m walking with my kid, partner, and dog. The dude slams on his brakes(now he’s not in a hurry), says “do that again I’ll bust your ass” and flashes his gun. Then my partner was like “you shouldn’t have done that”. People are insane.