After a short realization of how disorganized I am, my girlfriend said “어 진짜 I can’t. I can’t do this”. So at the risk of my 6 year relationship falling apart, does anyone know of a good calendar we can use together to plan out our days?
EDIT: I appreciate everyone’s concerns, but my relationship is not actually at risk. I’m just looking for a good calendar we can share 🥰
I am using Nextcloud Calender + DavX5 (android) + etar (android) for my colaborative and synchronized calenders. Working good since 1 year.
I second this. Nextcloud + DavX5 (Android) + aCalendar+ (Android) for me, works very well.
I also use next cloud + android + davx + Simple calendar from fdroid. I host NC on Cloudamo. It’s perfect and most secure. On PC account NC + Gnome Linux + Gnome calendar.
@hiajen @markkdark same here, simple calendar is great! I’m hosting NC on the VPS of Contabo, near 6 euro per month
Does that require self hosting?
Nextcloud is selfhosted, yes. But managed solutions exists, so you dont have to set it up your self/maintain it. (Free instances seem to exist https://nextcloud.com/sign-up/ dont know about privacy/encryption on these tho)
I currently use PikaPods, not only for NextCloud. It has the advantage that it is pre-paid and the FOSS developers are financially supported.
Damn, PikaPods looks awesome! Will check this out
TL;DR: an app won’t solve your problem, but learning to organize yourself will
At the risk of overstepping, I’ll say this:
If you have a problem with organization (or lack thereof), a calendar app will only help you so far. You can still miss an appointment by swiping away a notification or neglecting to jot down the appointment in the first place. Software are just tools: they won’t magically transform you and your habits.
(Disclaimer: I’m not a productivity expert or anything; I’m just applying what I’ve learned so far in life.)
First, think about your current internal system of keeping track of things. How is information getting lost? Why is it getting lost. From what I’ve read, disorganization is just a symptom of a deeper, underlying issue. In my case, I just didn’t like thinking about things I didn’t want to do or didn’t consider important, so I didn’t bother noting them down. So how did I remedy that? I have a notetaking app (Simple Notes or Markor) that’s empty by default and placed in my phone favorites bar/dock. As soon as I need to jot down something, it goes there. Once I can take my time, I review what I’ve jotted down and decide my next steps. When the tasks are done, the app gets cleared.
Second, think about what has worked for you in the past. Are there things that you managed to remember, and what helped you remember them back then? Personally, I remember things when I see them often, so writing down tasks in my notetaking app already works. However, for things that have set or faraway schedules, they get moved to apps with persistent notifications (Tasks.org and Simple Calendar, synced with EteSync).
Third… rinse and repeat. You may find that your new system still has gaps. That’s just part of learning how you best organize. Don’t be afraid to experiment, but don’t forget, and I cannot stress this enough, that SOFTWARE ARE JUST TOOLS. If an app doesn’t work for you, then it just doesn’t fit you, period. It’s not a failing of the developer or you. Once you find an organization system works for you, you’ll find that it’s so natural that it’s just second-nature. What apps to use will come after.
I’m sorry for the long comment and that this wasn’t what was asked, but I felt that this needed to be said. I do hope it helps you in some way.
Proton Calendar works well for this, only thing is you’ll need their unlimited 2 year package for ~$200. Comes with 10 VPN connections, upgraded simplelogin account, shared calendar, 500GB of enceyed cloud storage and many email perks.
If I was trying to save a relationship, “FOSS and encrypted” would not be my priorities.
Just use whatever whatever is easiest for her.
It’s likely you need much more than a calendar, though. Here are some more suggestions: https://www.chorebuster.net/blog/2023/06/free-cheap-apps-for-managing-adhd-around-the-home/
To respond to your direct question, Tutanota has you covered.
To respond to your broader organization predicament, I think you need an organization system. One of the most tried and tested systems is Getting Things Done. Check out the workbook. I’m sure it’ll change your life for the better. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aD8WG49PY4
I could send you some GTD resources https://matrix.to/#/@blipiblupi:matrix.org
Of course, you can get them online as well, given how popular GTD is 🤷
Tutanota Calendar looks great! I’ve used them before for email, so I’ll be checking this out!
Update: Can’t register to Tutanota on my normal IP, any VPN or Tor. Blocks my registration due to spam on each and every one
I’m sorry to hear you can’t do it :( maybe posting on their forums could help? idk… At the very least you can still use GTD :)
Proton Calendar, you can add “participants” to an event and it’s E2EE and free (with premium paid plans, but I dont think that you are going to need it). Worth a shot.
If self hosted why does It need to be encrypted? It only protects from physical attacks
Maybe: https://www.etesync.com/
But e2ee and sharing with other users is always complicated.
Tell her 걱정 마 다 괜찮아
I feel like things like to-do lists, shopping lists, calendars etc are some of the problems that open source doesn’t have fully covered. I don’t know about the proprietary solutions either though.
I wish there was a sleek set of tools that all looked the same and solved this problem.
Hm, some FOSS solutions def exists, but they dont have a super clean UX. Nextcloud + integrations covers all tasks you have listed as example.
What do you mean by integrations here? Nextcloud apps? Maybe I should have a good look again, last time I checked most Nextcloud apps seemed like mostly broken.
Yes Apps/Integrations/what ever its called ^^ Using Nextcloud (stable branch) for a while and had minimal problems yet. List of apps working fine which i am using:
spoiler
- Calendar (colaborative clendar)
- Contancts (sync my sim/andorid contacts)
- Draw.io
- news (rss reader)
- Notes
- QOwnNotes (notetaking app, but kinda bad UI)
- UnifiedPush
android apps using nextcloud as backend:
- nextcloud (lol)
- Saber (synced whiteboard)
- DavX5 (WebDav connetor for calendar/contacts etc)
- NextPush (alternative Push Provider)
apps i had trouble with and am not using thus: Colabora Office/OnlyOffice , i am using my own Cryptpad for those tasks.
Do they have iOS apps as well?
to be honest: i have negligible knowledge for iOS support/iOS Apps. Quick search told me there is a apple native way to integrate calendar and contacts https://docs.nextcloud.com/server/19/user_manual/pim/sync_ios.html#
I’ve been using Framagenda
