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  • I understand to some extent. We often in life have events that shock or unsettle us. Maybe you’re still grieving for the loss of the parents you remember. Coming to terms with who they actually are now.

    Politics is ugly and not nice right now. The world may feel a lot safer than it once was. It is out of our hands. We just have to learn to operate in that new world. We have to focus on the things we can control and make the best decisions we can in the circumstances. Are you in contact with the parent that left? Is there no possibility for you to live with that parent if you connect with them better. It could be that they left their spouse, not you.

    Focus on the things in life you enjoy. It may not be everything but those moments of joy can give us energy during harder times.

    I cannot really comment on the therapist situation. I don’t know if there is a real risk to you and you cannot go into it. Trust is important in therapy, so that could be tricky.

    As you are a young adult, maybe focus on your future, your life, what you want your life to be and think of what steps you need to take and what decisions you need to make to start heading down that path. You have agency and many choices in that so you can hopefully feel power in your control of that.

    Forgive yourself that you feel unsettled though. It is normal and natural for things to affect us in life and it takes time to process it and move on. Allow yourself slack to be able to do that in your time.

    Oh, and your parent is responsible for the decisions they make and the choice to listen. It may feel good for them to blame the other. Maybe they saw who this person was long ago and just could not continue with it.




  • I personally wouldn’t touch Purism. I read some pre-ordered and then requested refunds. They allegedly said they’d do it at a certain time, and apparently when it got to it, did not refund, and secretly changed terms and conditions.

    I would not touch with barge pole.

    I own a Pinephone and like it, but it was very immature, dated and not ready. I wanted the Pinephone Pro, but I think it still needed a lot of work.

    I’m currently using GrapheneOS. I share your enthusiasm, but need a basic phone to do basic phone things like call or text and Linux phones are not always reliable for that.


  • In reality, not everyone quits and your pay didn’t move. Only way to improve your pay is often move and negotiate.

    If you stay, you can do 200% of the work and hope there is a role and they appreciate your work. Or just sell your experience to a company that definitely has that role available.


  • CrypticCoffee@lemmy.mltoWorld News@lemmy.mlUkraine cancels local elections
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    So you assumed I’m an American liberal…

    Firstly, I’m not American. I live in Europe. So fail one. Secondly, I’m a Socialist, so fail two. Fuck liberalism, and screw America, but ultimately, that doesn’t mean you have to swallow everything the enemies of American push. Oh, and I’m on Lemmy because I haven’t touched Reddit in a while. You’re the weirdest leftie that is still actively on an enshittified right-wing hell hole and the projection is real crazy. You cannot demand critical analysis from Americans, and fail in it yourself.

    Oh, btw, Russia is capitalist, with many, many billionaires. The proletariat are not reaping the benefits of their exploitation.

    I live in a world where you can be anti-captalist and not shilling for Russia.

    Let’s go back to basics though, if you have a source saying something, you have to ask who said it, and whether they have a motive. Russia Today is the Russian state broadcaster. It’s a really dreadful source to use to understand a war Russia are currently in. I’d suggest you’d find a less biased source, but not too many of them are pushing Russian propaganda.

    I’m really curious. How do you run polling stations, where you have to advertise to the public where they are, and to come there, and protect yourself from drone and missile strikes? I really want to understand how you can run elections where you’re being invaded. Can you help me out here? Any examples?

    I get really annoyed with Libtards throwing around terms like “tankies” but you’re really kind of walking the ball into your own net (football reference) when you’re shilling this hard for Russia.