My sister’s take has been that since trans women don’t go through the pain of menstruation or giving birth, they have no right to suggest they “earned” being a woman.
I mean that and she thinks Disney became woke and they ruined her beloved 90s films.
I remember talking about Putin and how he said the most Bond villain thing with “you in the west believe history is a struggle between oppression and freedom, I see it as a struggle between chaos and order”. Her take is history is a struggle between modesty and debauchery and we’ve gone too far in the debauchery direction.
I love her, and she can surprise me with her humor, but overall she can turn into Angela from the office, but she’s not even religious.
For sure. There are many kinds of toxicity. Toxic gasses may affect you differently than inhaling silica dust, biological neurotoxins or rigid gender norms.
What are their thoughts on post op trans women? Because let me tell you, screaming pain in the hospital, pouring blood out my snatch (seriously it was so much), wearing pads every day, intense cramping from the catheter, abdominal pain for months, getting the stirrups and speculum treatment, I sure feel like I’d have ‘earned’ it by now
When my wife was newly transitioned, we were out in a big box store and she remarks, exasperated, “everyone is just stopping in my way or way invading my personal space today! Wtf!”
Nope, thats just how people treat women in public lol.
You never needed to earn being yourself via suffering, no one owes that to anyone, but I have witnessed personally just how authentically the public mistreats all femme people.
I came out in between jobs but the level of respect and my assumed competence changed dramatically. My favorite was always me suggesting a solution, I get deer in headlights stares, a guy suggests the same thing and suddenly it’s all the rage. Thankfully this never really happens in my current job but the sexism is for real in a lot of ways I didn’t understand until transitioning
The key to dealing with people stopping in your way is to just fucking ram into them anyway. Even better if you can squeeze past and shoulder check them without stopping. People learn to stop being misogynists real quick when misogyny leads to being slammed into.
There are three rulebooks for social interaction based on your gender. There’s the man’s rulebook, which you can’t use if you look female. There’s the women’s rulebook, which is what a lot of people feel pressured to use and do so out of politeness. And then there’s the anarchist’s rulebook, where you don’t take crap from people over your gender.
I feel like if someone wants to be a gender without surgery that’s a totally valid choice. I don’t get the expectations around having the “right” genitals. Who decides what’s right? It’s trying too hard to conform to an understanding of gender identity that’s now archaic.
I agree completely, surgery is definitely not a requirement especially with how inaccessible it is for so many people. That logic doesn’t seem to fly for the sister in question though so maybe an appeal to ‘yeah but some trans people have earned it according to you’ could get a foot in the door
My doc got me some serious topical shit from a compounding pharmacy : 30% benzocaine, 6% lidocaine, 6% tetracaine. Gotta put it on at scale and rub it in really thoroughly (use an exam glove for this so your fingers don’t go numb), and cover it with plastic wrap. Do that an hour to 90 minutes before the appointment, and have a gummy on the way in.
That made it survivable for me, still not fun tho.
My sister’s take has been that since trans women don’t go through the pain of menstruation or giving birth, they have no right to suggest they “earned” being a woman.
What a bullshit pov since many people born as women don’t have children or menstruate, see this link
Some intersex people don’t menstruate, what are intersex people? They can choose to express gender identity as they see fit. Therefore, it’s not black/white about “menstruate = woman”
Also, ‘debauchery’, in this case just means more people are happier being themselves, and loving who they want to love, more than almost anytime in history.
These kind of people ignore all the regular kind of debauchery, like priests committing sexual abuse against children.
I doubt women willingly “earned” their womanhood going through all that, and whose to say I’d rather not deal with periods and stuff over literally not being able to be myself in my own skin? Making friends is so difficult when half my mind is recognizing that they’re gonna see the stubble no matter what I do and form opinions and assumptions on that alone.
My sister’s take has been that since trans women don’t go through the pain of menstruation or giving birth, they have no right to suggest they “earned” being a woman.
I mean that and she thinks Disney became woke and they ruined her beloved 90s films. I remember talking about Putin and how he said the most Bond villain thing with “you in the west believe history is a struggle between oppression and freedom, I see it as a struggle between chaos and order”. Her take is history is a struggle between modesty and debauchery and we’ve gone too far in the debauchery direction.
I love her, and she can surprise me with her humor, but overall she can turn into Angela from the office, but she’s not even religious.
“earning” to be a woman sounds like the female equivalent to toxic masculinity
Terfs are the equivalent to toxic masculinity ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
True that, I never thought of it that way
Toxicity is Gender Neutral 🙌
I really like this take but would argue that toxic masculinity and femininity affect society in different ways. Hmm. Toxic gender ideology maybe?
For sure. There are many kinds of toxicity. Toxic gasses may affect you differently than inhaling silica dust, biological neurotoxins or rigid gender norms.
What are their thoughts on post op trans women? Because let me tell you, screaming pain in the hospital, pouring blood out my snatch (seriously it was so much), wearing pads every day, intense cramping from the catheter, abdominal pain for months, getting the stirrups and speculum treatment, I sure feel like I’d have ‘earned’ it by now
When my wife was newly transitioned, we were out in a big box store and she remarks, exasperated, “everyone is just stopping in my way or way invading my personal space today! Wtf!”
Nope, thats just how people treat women in public lol.
You never needed to earn being yourself via suffering, no one owes that to anyone, but I have witnessed personally just how authentically the public mistreats all femme people.
I came out in between jobs but the level of respect and my assumed competence changed dramatically. My favorite was always me suggesting a solution, I get deer in headlights stares, a guy suggests the same thing and suddenly it’s all the rage. Thankfully this never really happens in my current job but the sexism is for real in a lot of ways I didn’t understand until transitioning
The key to dealing with people stopping in your way is to just fucking ram into them anyway. Even better if you can squeeze past and shoulder check them without stopping. People learn to stop being misogynists real quick when misogyny leads to being slammed into.
There are three rulebooks for social interaction based on your gender. There’s the man’s rulebook, which you can’t use if you look female. There’s the women’s rulebook, which is what a lot of people feel pressured to use and do so out of politeness. And then there’s the anarchist’s rulebook, where you don’t take crap from people over your gender.
I feel like if someone wants to be a gender without surgery that’s a totally valid choice. I don’t get the expectations around having the “right” genitals. Who decides what’s right? It’s trying too hard to conform to an understanding of gender identity that’s now archaic.
I agree completely, surgery is definitely not a requirement especially with how inaccessible it is for so many people. That logic doesn’t seem to fly for the sister in question though so maybe an appeal to ‘yeah but some trans people have earned it according to you’ could get a foot in the door
Or cis women who just don’t get painful periods? Or those who decide to get rid of periods altogether with medication?
Not to mention the months of being stabbed in the genitals and taint with electrified needles just to get ready for the surgery and recovery.
I had to do that for over two years 😭
I am so not looking forward to this part
My doc got me some serious topical shit from a compounding pharmacy : 30% benzocaine, 6% lidocaine, 6% tetracaine. Gotta put it on at scale and rub it in really thoroughly (use an exam glove for this so your fingers don’t go numb), and cover it with plastic wrap. Do that an hour to 90 minutes before the appointment, and have a gummy on the way in.
That made it survivable for me, still not fun tho.
What a bullshit pov since many people born as women don’t have children or menstruate, see this link
[link](https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/talking-about-periods-beyond-gender#:~:text=Some cisgender women (assigned female,who aren’t cisgender women.)
Some intersex people don’t menstruate, what are intersex people? They can choose to express gender identity as they see fit. Therefore, it’s not black/white about “menstruate = woman”
Fascists always prattle about “degenerates.”
Also, ‘debauchery’, in this case just means more people are happier being themselves, and loving who they want to love, more than almost anytime in history.
These kind of people ignore all the regular kind of debauchery, like priests committing sexual abuse against children.
Or blame one on the other.
I doubt women willingly “earned” their womanhood going through all that, and whose to say I’d rather not deal with periods and stuff over literally not being able to be myself in my own skin? Making friends is so difficult when half my mind is recognizing that they’re gonna see the stubble no matter what I do and form opinions and assumptions on that alone.