When my wife was newly transitioned, we were out in a big box store and she remarks, exasperated, “everyone is just stopping in my way or way invading my personal space today! Wtf!”
Nope, thats just how people treat women in public lol.
You never needed to earn being yourself via suffering, no one owes that to anyone, but I have witnessed personally just how authentically the public mistreats all femme people.
I came out in between jobs but the level of respect and my assumed competence changed dramatically. My favorite was always me suggesting a solution, I get deer in headlights stares, a guy suggests the same thing and suddenly it’s all the rage. Thankfully this never really happens in my current job but the sexism is for real in a lot of ways I didn’t understand until transitioning
The key to dealing with people stopping in your way is to just fucking ram into them anyway. Even better if you can squeeze past and shoulder check them without stopping. People learn to stop being misogynists real quick when misogyny leads to being slammed into.
There are three rulebooks for social interaction based on your gender. There’s the man’s rulebook, which you can’t use if you look female. There’s the women’s rulebook, which is what a lot of people feel pressured to use and do so out of politeness. And then there’s the anarchist’s rulebook, where you don’t take crap from people over your gender.
When my wife was newly transitioned, we were out in a big box store and she remarks, exasperated, “everyone is just stopping in my way or way invading my personal space today! Wtf!”
Nope, thats just how people treat women in public lol.
You never needed to earn being yourself via suffering, no one owes that to anyone, but I have witnessed personally just how authentically the public mistreats all femme people.
I came out in between jobs but the level of respect and my assumed competence changed dramatically. My favorite was always me suggesting a solution, I get deer in headlights stares, a guy suggests the same thing and suddenly it’s all the rage. Thankfully this never really happens in my current job but the sexism is for real in a lot of ways I didn’t understand until transitioning
The key to dealing with people stopping in your way is to just fucking ram into them anyway. Even better if you can squeeze past and shoulder check them without stopping. People learn to stop being misogynists real quick when misogyny leads to being slammed into.
There are three rulebooks for social interaction based on your gender. There’s the man’s rulebook, which you can’t use if you look female. There’s the women’s rulebook, which is what a lot of people feel pressured to use and do so out of politeness. And then there’s the anarchist’s rulebook, where you don’t take crap from people over your gender.