• MimicJar@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    115
    ·
    1 year ago

    I always assume people doing this are unhinged/crazy and I definitely don’t want to deal with that.

    Sometimes they look nice enough.

    Usually what happens is myself and everyone else on the train look at each other, have a shared look of “Morons? Am I right?” and then when that person leaves, we all share a group laugh.

    So I guess what I’d say is, if you do this, know that everyone is laughing at you. If you say you don’t care, that’s a lie, you do care, that’s why you’re doing what you’re doing. This is not positive attention, this is negative attention. Please take a moment and reflect to be a force for positivity and not negativity.

    • TheFriar@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      13
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      edit-2
      1 year ago

      The new trend I’ve noticed, actually is people SINGING/RAPPING along to the music on their headphones, like, fully as if they were the only ones there, while on a packed train.

      I mean, i guess it’s better because it’s not as loud as their shitty Bluetooth speaker at max volume peaking like crazy, but it is super weird and very fuckin annoying.

      Like, cool, we get it you’re so super confident and think youre as cool as the person you’re listening to in one of their music videos. But you’re not. Because you sound like shit and you’re a dick. Everyone else is getting through this train ride, why the fuck do you think we want to hear YOUR rendition of what you’re listening to? Like, I really can’t decide which is worse. One is way louder but one is way fuckin weirder. People who do either of these are true assholes.

    • overcast5348@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      Some guy got stabbed on the subway in Toronto a few months back because he asked a guy playing music to turn it off. It really is a crazy world out there.

    • The Stoned Hacker@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      5
      arrow-down
      20
      ·
      1 year ago

      Genuinely not necessarily true. I used to do this when I was younger. It wasn’t because I wanted attention, I just like the feeling of being surrounded by music

      • LucidNightmare@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        22
        ·
        1 year ago

        Genuinely, the world does not want to always take part in what you want. There are rules to society that most of us at least try to follow out of respect. Time and place to be surrounded by music. I’d definitely say on the bus or train is not the time or place. Agree?

        • brambledog@lemmy.today
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          arrow-down
          3
          ·
          1 year ago

          I don’t personally do it myself just because I know the majority finds it disrespectful, but I actually enjoy it, especially when they are playing a good song and i can audile who the artist is.

      • Nikki@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        16
        ·
        1 year ago

        headphones are both more polite and more immersive thwn carrying around a speaker to annoy others

        • TheFriar@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          5
          ·
          1 year ago

          So true. I have an older pair of headphones and they’re still the best sound I can get for my music. It’s the MOST immersive, not only like the sound is all around me, but right inside my head.

      • TheFriar@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        16
        arrow-down
        2
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        I masturbate on trains—not because I want attention, I just like the feeling of cumming and I wanted to cum.

  • Lord_ToRA@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    92
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    The venn diagram of people who play music on speakers in public and people who are a thin thread away from stabbing you is a circle.

    Also, I live in the US, so the medical fees for getting stabbed is not worth the risk.

    • bratosch@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      11
      ·
      1 year ago

      Americans who want to confront but can’t afford medcare 🤝 Swedes who have full access to medcare but are afraid of social interaction

        • KISSmyOS@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          34
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          1 year ago

          This has happened in Germany, too.
          I’m not going to try and educate other people anymore. Too many people now explode without warning at the slightest perceived criticism in public.

          • MindSkipperBro12@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            5
            arrow-down
            8
            ·
            1 year ago

            Seriously, why do high population centers in the western world have so many mentally unstable people and/or tweakers?

            • stewsters@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              23
              ·
              1 year ago

              Low population areas do to. But you don’t have public transit so as long as you don’t wander into their meth labs you never have to meet them.

            • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              11
              ·
              1 year ago

              Lots of people.

              Small town crazy is different. Small town crazy everyone knows who the lunatic is and avoids them or they don’t know and one day several people disappear or someone is kidnapped or something. Small town crazy scares the shit out of me.

              • Socsa@sh.itjust.works
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                5
                arrow-down
                1
                ·
                edit-2
                1 year ago

                Small town crazy is more like the sheriff knows you beat the shit out of your wife and kids but ignores it as long as nobody ends up in the hospital.

                If rural crime was reported accurately, it would be very clear where the most dangerous places per capita are.

            • garbagebagel@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              2
              ·
              1 year ago

              Hey we have free healthcare in Canada and our waitlists are so laughable you may as well just join the crazies.

              • danekrae@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                2
                ·
                1 year ago

                The system here isn’t perfect either. But it is clearly a lot better than in many other places.

            • grayman@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              1
              arrow-down
              4
              ·
              1 year ago

              Free my ass. Tax payer funded. If you’re going to support something, at least be honest about it.

              • danekrae@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                2
                ·
                1 year ago

                Nothing in life is free. I guess we should just get rid of the word. Who doesn’t know that “free healthcare” is paid with taxes? I obviously mean no unexpected bills or denied healthcare. Nobody has to chose between food or medication. Obviously…

                Do you also comment about the word literally and figuratively being synonyms?

                • grayman@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  1
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  Literally, it’s an important point that seems to be lost on many that believe if we just tax the top 10% (who pay 90% of total tax revenue) even more, we can fix all our problems. Every country with socialized healthcare requires every citizen to pay a significant tax to cover the cost. If people are not willing to pay for it, they shouldn’t be advocating for it. But first they have to be educated on the reality of the cost. So yeah, stop saying free because many have no clue.

        • GBU_28@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          6
          ·
          1 year ago

          Not just America. I saw this on the DB to Strasbourg, drunk middle aged woman spitting vile at each person who passed her.

          You really wanna handle that?

  • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    50
    ·
    1 year ago

    Why is it always the worst rap music imaginable? Like, I’m a hip hop fanatic, old school, new school, trap, g funk, boom bap, conscious, etc. But why is it the most asinine “i took a xanny now i’m fucking your girl” type shit?

  • blunderworld
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    45
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    Nope, not worth it. I’ve stopped trying to convince others to be considerate in public. They’ll either ignore you or blow up and get aggressive. I’d rather just try to ignore them myself and move on with my life.

    And at the end of the day, I’m also not some authority figure like their mom or dad; I’m nobody to them. As much as I may not always like it, strangers don’t owe me anything, including their consideration.

    • lolcatnip@reddthat.com
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      25
      ·
      1 year ago

      Strangers who use public spaces absolutely owe other people their consideration. It’s part of the price of admission to a public space. It’s not enforceable in practice but I’d be surprised if a certain level of being inconsiderate is even legal in most public spaces.

      • blunderworld
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        1 year ago

        I don’t disagree with that in theory, but like you pointed out… Who’s going to enforce it in practice? Shouldn’t have to be me, or anyone else who doesn’t work for public transit.

        Obviously there’s a point where I’d say something if a person was being truly inappropriate, but I’m not risking my neck over music on a bus.

        • lolcatnip@reddthat.com
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          3
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          1 year ago

          You can at least feel superior to the assholes screwing up public spaces to the rest of us.

        • lolcatnip@reddthat.com
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          4
          ·
          edit-2
          1 year ago

          You can call the police, but will they actually show up and do anything about it? Where I live they almost certainly will not.

          • explodicle@local106.com
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            2
            ·
            1 year ago

            Where I live, the police only do something about it if they’ve been called multiple times and are annoyed. Which just encourages people to report it immediately instead of when they actually need the noise to stop.

    • TheFriar@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      1 year ago

      If people cared about your opinion on their intrusive actions, they wouldn’t be doing anything intrusive in the first place.

    • toynbee@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      1 year ago

      I have shaped my life to minimize exposure to anyone else and the first half of this is a good summary of why.

    • Socsa@sh.itjust.works
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      4
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      The real caption should be “Am I the only one who makes memes about my tough guy delusions?”

      Maybe OP found the one truly ignorant but considerate person in the world who has done this. Everyone else knows it’s a waste of time.

    • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      Why even have rules of social discourse then?

      I get the safety risk but at the end of the day, it’s everyone’s responsibility to enforce social norms because that’s the only way we get to have peace and quiet. And to not be run roughshod by those who don’t care otherwise.

      How long will we let ourselves be intimidated by them?

  • aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    25
    ·
    1 year ago

    I’ve tried this. Guy next to me was playing a video game on full blast that I can hear over my noise cancelling headphones. I asked him if he could turn the sound down.

    He said “F you! This is my console. I do what I want! You’re the only one complaining so shut the f up”…

    • lolcatnip@reddthat.com
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      12
      arrow-down
      20
      ·
      edit-2
      1 year ago

      IMHO you would have been within your rights to yank that guy’s console out of his hands and smash it.

      Of course the risk escalating wouldn’t be worth it, but you’d have the moral high ground at least.

      • null@slrpnk.net
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        29
        arrow-down
        8
        ·
        1 year ago

        Someone being obnoxious does not give you the right to damage their property.

        This is an absurd and extremely juvenile take.

  • D_C@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    24
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    Start up your Bluetooth speaker. (Buy one if you haven’t got one. It doesn’t have to be good, just loud.)
    Ramp it up to 11.
    Start the most annoying obnoxious sound you have, (that you have already downloaded).
    Stand next to the person playing the shitty music and aim the speaker at then.
    When they complain about your annoying noise you reply, “You started it.”

  • Num10ck@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    18
    ·
    1 year ago

    i wonder what would happen if you just start acting really into it and singing along terribly with enthusiasm.

  • ruckblack@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    19
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    Yeah I don’t need the tweaky dude stabbing me on the train because I didn’t like his music, but thanks

  • Wirrvogel@feddit.de
    link
    fedilink
    Deutsch
    arrow-up
    13
    ·
    1 year ago

    German here. A woman was starting to play loud music on her phone while I was sitting at a bakery having a cup of coffee, trying to relax from a bad morning. I opened Spotify, checked for this song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDBDtIOxUsI Every Maaaaaamaaaa I was singing loudly along. She lasted half of the song then fled the scene, even left her coffee on the table. My ears were bleeding, but it was worth it.

    Fight them with the most terrible old people song you know in your country, be aware that it might hurt you too.

  • GBU_28@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    13
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    You better have the gun from the meme if you’re gonna make a habit of this.