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Cake day: Jan. 29, 2022


I’ll investigate, thanks for the lead!

Is it unsafe to just blow it by short circuiting the outlet? While wearing those 2 rubber gloves per hand.

I have some rough plan that I might do the outlet swaparoo when the power goes out due to a thunderstorm. But I’m not sure if that’s more unsafe?

I’m not sure if I do the other one. The fact that the wire broke with the other one concerns me. Like I don’t know how to repair wires. If you know how to repair wires, is it easy to learn? It looks like cooper

The craziest thing I've done this year: Literal sparks flying, fuses blowing, landlord punk'd
Was trying to fix a damaged outlet in my rental unit, as per usual landlord didn't want to fix it. I don't have a breaker /fuse box in my room. So, tired of the outlet, I decided to change the outlet entirely with the breaker turned ON. I considered putting a friend on speaker in case I died, but in my fever pitch I decided against it. So here I am wearing 2 pairs of rubber gloves per hand, with random unrubered wire wrapped around my body in a way so that if I got shocked, the electricity would have a path to travel to not blast my heart / chest / head. I do the outlet swap a roo. Ancient super boomer outlet, it's wired differently. Wires charred to hell. One of the wires is brittle and snaps. Half way through random arc, a loud pop, my screw driver goes flying the live wire hit something. My entire unit lost power. Panic slightly before realizing that it's not so bad, now I won't die. I finish the swaparoo. I call up the landlord, with some bs excuse ready. He doesn't ask and just goes and flicks the fuse back on. My fuse works. My actual face: XD Ps: The outlet doesn't put out enough to kill a person iirc Get wrecked landlord, guess who just increased the value of your unit!! I have another damaged outlet to fix, but part 2 will have to wait! (Also, wtf one 15a circuit for the whole unit?) I still don't know where the screw driver flew)

kind of help they’re looking for

True! Forgot about this.

Good suggestions!

Why do irl people try to discourage me from saving up for a down payment on an apartment?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/401685 > They usually say something like owning an apartment is worse than renting an apartment and I should save up for a house because that's better. > > If you add up all the income I've made in my life, it's probably nowhere close to being enough to buy a house anywhere in my city. But some trashy apartment? I think I could afford that eventuallly. I only rent trashy apartments and the landlords don't fix anything worth a damn and I end up doing half of my own repairs - cuz at least that way it's done properly. it annoys me every time that I fix up some rich person's apartment, then I move, then fix up that rich person's apartment rinse and repeat. And it's annoying that the landlord tells me if I modify the room (ex repairs) that violates my lease and they'll evict me. > > But if I own it? At least I just fix it once. > > Irl people also say if i buy it, it could have like black mold. Like dude, my current place has black mold already. I think most of the irl ppl I know are pay check to pay check, but I don't use taxis or buy take out the way they do. > > (My bathroom door literally just fell of its hinges.)

I’ve only tried twice so far specifically telling the person I’m speaking to not give me advice. Didn’t work both times - I think their word vomit is too strong for them to hold back.

One of them I’ve told twice too. Didn’t work the second time either. Now when we’re talking, I just don’t complain to her

Just want to say sorry that you’re experiencing this. It sounds pretty invalidating and traumatizing. I hope you can find a better set of individuals to share these experiences with 😞

You’re good at this! Someone once told me not to talk to them as much like this bc it was too therapyish for them. Since then I try to roughly paraphrase what they’re saying and like throw in a dumb joke. (Ex someone’s telling me how they got fired, i summarize how they got fired and say like “another day in paradise”. Which usually at least gets a slight smile) I’ve never known how well received my approach is, but no obvious negative reviews. I’m unsure if the joke at the end is too abrupt change of tone or something? What do you think about this kind of approach?

but are the people you are talking to men?

Mostly. I read about this too. I don’t know as many women and the ones I do tend to be at least somewhat tomboyish and they do the same thing lol.

Also I’ve been thinking, when people tell me about some bad story that happened to them, I’ve been wondering if I should straight up ask “do you want me to give you dumb obvious advice?” But I don’t want them to feel like “sir this is a Wendy’s” (which is also funny bc a Wendy’s cashier was complaining about her position to me in Wendy’s lmao)

I hit the libraries and bookstores so fucking hard

As someone who somewhat raised themself, thanks a lot for putting in the effort!!! Which might sounds like a strange thing to say, but do you get why I appreciate hearing that you put in the effort?

All the readings helped? I read psychology today articles with consistency and they talk about these kind of things sometimes. I read through them for the same reason you do, self improvement

Is it good idea to add rivets to clothes to create more airflow?
To help regulate sweat / body temperature. Should be more socially acceptable than me stripping in public


Depending on factors, when someone gives obvious advice, it really stakes a fence in the sand of “i don’t know what you’re talking about”. Specifically when they give obvious advice and don’t ask much about why you haven’t done that already.

And then sometimes (tdy) go from telling a story where i was victimized to basically being revictimized by the person i’m talking to where i have to hold myself back bc they keep giving obv dumb advice, and if i explain why I didn’t do Y, they press on something like Y2 then Y3 etc.

There might be some kind of golden rule here of unless i’m testing how ‘suitable’ someone is or we’re friends, dont explain jack squat

Have any interesting victim blaming stories?
in my experience Just thinking about an interaction today. It's pretty interesting how I tell the average person (especially males) a story where i'm the victim and they immediately intensely victim blame me. This is probably largely due to rock bottom low positive sentiment of the person directed towards me. I don't know why i talk to some of people i talk to. At least when i think about it. I'm pretty sure i have higher standard for which internet acquaintances i talk to regularly then irl acquaintances. If it's an internet interaction, if i establish they're uhh unsuitable i don't talk to them anymore, and maybe i should do that irl for acquintances? Obv if you vets someone as being good company, they don't victim blame you.

other people think, you can directly throw it under your shirt,

I was doing this the other day. I kept on forgetting it was in my shirt and when I stood up it fell out. Tips for this?

Off the top of my head, I can imagine a pantyhose holder scarf thing

I’ve received a lot of physiotherapy, stretching does help muscle problems for sure

Shouldnt it ideally have some kind of thing that lets me keep it against my body when walking? Bc in winter

Any advice on diffusing arguments for conversations i'm not apart off?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/394982 > I've noticed variations of 'calm down' don't work. > > Lots of ppl in arguments in the hood

Any advice on diffusing arguments for conversations i'm not apart off?
I've noticed variations of 'calm down' don't work. Lots of ppl in arguments in the hood

Add https://beehaw.org/c/feminism to the sidebar of feminism?

@Gaywallet@beehaw.org, add lemmy.ml/c/feminism to the sidebar of beehaw feminism?

Will let subscribers flow more seemlessly to both subs

afaik, it would create hierachies based on inherited wealth, as well as leaving the patriarchy in place, race hierarchies etc. Their definition of anarchism is the abolishment of gov and nothing else.

Fellow CIA shills, you know which part of lemmy i'm talking about ;) I'm glad people here don't mindlessly stan countries

Based. Finally a place on lemmy to address anarchists rather than being lemmygrad 2.0

roads r public tires r private

Have you shopped at a thrift store in the past 6 months?
vote on one of the answers I put in the comment

Metamucil reduces the feeling of being hungry
Tried it yesterday and it works. Dont go overboard and give yourself bowel problems tho

Can we do a sidebar link swap between all the science subs?
There is: https://lemmy.ml/c/science https://beehaw.org/c/science https://mander.xyz/c/science which would allow people to more easily find the other subs

CMV: woke chess. Black or white should move first?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/382278 > I'm partially memeing bc i get that it's a game from like 3000 yrs ago, but its a very easy modification. > > Is there a reason why this isn't done? Or changing the colors to something else? (Blue vs red, which seems to be video game standard)