We were making it: we were eking by and just starting to turn the corner when one of the partners did some legal wrangling to grab power. FineYouDoIt.jpg because I’d had enough already and prepped my next job.
Hopped a plane. Hopped another. Hopped another. Three people on the planet knew where I was: Mom, GF, and guy who bashes bags at the local airport who saw my name on the flight manifest and checked my connection. Went to the waiting apartment to start the next day. Never looked back, didn’t answer email except when Cop friend emailed and asked whether I was missing. Nope, so case closed.
I’ve been in a few situations before where it’s been incredibly tempting to just not show up because:
Your management doesn’t value your input
Nepotism is prevalent when promotions come around
You’re not doing the type of work that was advertised in the job post and discussed your first two weeks
You’re doing excellent work solving difficult and/or outstanding problems but someone else gets the credit
Sure, you could put in a notice of resignation, but if you know that your manager is going to harass you for reasons why, possibly belittle you, and try to guilt-trip you into giving more time to the company to “finish out” tasks on your queue that they’ve not bothered to train anyone else on that you’ve requested over the last two years, then wanting to cut ties as quickly as possible given the toxic environment is a fairly normal desire.
Not saying it’s the right thing to do, and all the flight-hopping that OP claims does seem a tad strange, but sometimes people end up in a fairly unsupportive or toxic environment where you just have to take actions in putting as much distance and as many barriers in place as possible to mentally feel like you’ve regained some level of control.
Absolutely. I was supporting, “But why?” as a valid question because there’s more going on here than just being sick of a job. Yeah some places can be super toxic, but this sounds more like what you’d do if they wanted to ask questions about missing money or you punched a coworker or fleeing an abusive spouse. Not that I’m accusing OP of any of that, just agreeing that this is so extreme there’s something unsaid here.
I quit my startup like that.
We were making it: we were eking by and just starting to turn the corner when one of the partners did some legal wrangling to grab power. FineYouDoIt.jpg because I’d had enough already and prepped my next job.
Hopped a plane. Hopped another. Hopped another. Three people on the planet knew where I was: Mom, GF, and guy who bashes bags at the local airport who saw my name on the flight manifest and checked my connection. Went to the waiting apartment to start the next day. Never looked back, didn’t answer email except when Cop friend emailed and asked whether I was missing. Nope, so case closed.
Wait, so you just bailed on your girlfriend?
I’m curious about that too
No he’s just gone to the store for cigarettes.
So that’s what happen to my Dad.
Hey Corsican guy, say hi to this guy’s dad
But why
Step one in his plan of stealing the declaration of Independence
He said he just had enough
A resignation would’ve worked just fine. I guess maybe paired with a restraining order if all of this was even remotely necessary.
Yeah, feels a bit too dramatic for no apparent reason
I don’t know. Sometimes I wonder how far I could get on the money in the bank and the gas in my car. Just keep driving.
In that case flight hopping isn’t the efficient way to do it
In my case…. A couple of blocks…. Tops!…
Drama every once in a while can be good, especially if you’re not there to suffer from the fallout.
I’ve been in a few situations before where it’s been incredibly tempting to just not show up because:
Sure, you could put in a notice of resignation, but if you know that your manager is going to harass you for reasons why, possibly belittle you, and try to guilt-trip you into giving more time to the company to “finish out” tasks on your queue that they’ve not bothered to train anyone else on that you’ve requested over the last two years, then wanting to cut ties as quickly as possible given the toxic environment is a fairly normal desire.
Not saying it’s the right thing to do, and all the flight-hopping that OP claims does seem a tad strange, but sometimes people end up in a fairly unsupportive or toxic environment where you just have to take actions in putting as much distance and as many barriers in place as possible to mentally feel like you’ve regained some level of control.
Absolutely. I was supporting, “But why?” as a valid question because there’s more going on here than just being sick of a job. Yeah some places can be super toxic, but this sounds more like what you’d do if they wanted to ask questions about missing money or you punched a coworker or fleeing an abusive spouse. Not that I’m accusing OP of any of that, just agreeing that this is so extreme there’s something unsaid here.