(edit [NSFW] sry)

I’m a woman and I’ve never been to a strip club and never will, so whenever I’ve idly heard about lap dances I never thought much of it except for her titties in his face and the pointless sexual frustration and his waste of money

but now for the first time I’m thinking

ohmygod if he had a huge cock and she’s all teasing it through his jeans with her g-string-clad wet pussy that is kinda so hot and maybe that’s worth the money for him

Because I also know that the women are allowed to touch the men, but the men aren’t allowed to touch the women

which brings me back to the opinion of how stupid & pointless & frustrating & stupid the whole thing is

but my only question right now is:

Does she dry hump his erect cock?

  • NounsAndWords@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    There is typically a lot more touching involved than movies and TV would have you believe. Usually it’s okay to touch hips/legs/arms but not the naughty bits unless you pay more for it (usually first by paying extra to get into some form of “VIP” area).
    Dry humping is pretty much exactly what it is. Also these same places are often notorious for offering “extras” which can range widely to pretty much anything.

    • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 months ago

      these same places are often notorious for offering “extras” which can range widely to pretty much anything.

      So like they can arrange to take it to the back to a private room and do all the things?

      If so, what if the John turns out to be an undercover cop who catches them full-on prostituting and puts them all in jail? scary.

      🤦‍♀️

      which brings me back to my opinion that I have no idea why sexuality is criminalized to begin with. Probably just an easy way for the govt to get revenue (or collect all the hot-willing-ready girls to keep for themselves).

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        For lots of reasons the odds of the cop being a legitimate client seem more likely than a sting. Extra doesn’t necessarily mean sex, it could be get more naked, let you touch more, longer dances, they can get very creative.
        I think “full-on prostituting” is less prevalent than your imagining. Even if it were more common, for context most of those strip mall Asian massage places are actual full-on prostituting and they stay in business for quite a while.

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          11 months ago

          So people are okay with being horny and teasing each other all night but not getting an orgasm out of it? seems odd to me. There MUST be an orgasm after all that buildup.

          haha and I guess that’s what the Asian massage places are for. Reminds me learning on Reddit years ago about rubmaps dot com 😆

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    Strip clubs are the ultimate thirst trap, party music, alcohol, attractive women (usually), but then you get into the manipulation of it all, the stripper acting interested, the expensive “special dance”. These girls are trying to keep that guy (or girl or whatever) paying them for more time, more tips at the stage, more drinks from the bar, so of course she dry humps that erect cock, because at the end of the day humping that erect cock could be the difference between an average night and a great night, or money for diapers and formula, or a nice bag of coke, so yeah she’s going to hump that erect cock, or she’s going to realize that she’s better than that and find a new line of work.

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      As I got halfway through your paragraph I felt a fart generating down in my nether regions and thought,

      while those girls are dry-humping do they ever fart? There must be a lot of farts happening in the club. I mean they’re all human right?

      And what would happen if she farts? End of the dance? Will the guy want a refund?

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        No, that poor fool will take that fart and pretend it wasn’t her that farted, because there’s no way that someone as pretty as her would fart on him, then he will go home and try and masturbate to her, but he’ll still have her fart lingering in his brain, and as he’s struggling to get off he’ll remember the fart smell, and wonder if it actually was her, then he will stop masturbating out of frustration, reach into the end table to pull out the pistol he keeps there, which he’ll use to shoot himself in the nose, because assuredly that will get rid of that fart smell, but the only thing the bullet does is end his miserable existence.

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    I am gay, and I have never had an issue just finding a partner for sex whenever the want arose. Also, I have never been to a strip club but I have worked in a few factories, so I have second-hand knowledge.

    The guy doesn’t wear jeans. They wear thin-fabric pants and go commando, and the classiest wear underwear in a material like pleather, and they pre-lube themselves before going. So the stripper dry humps the guy so he can get off.
    or
    The guy has a wife/girlfriend who doesn’t quite do it for him, so he goes out to get horny before going home to have sex.

    Edit: Sounds like the guys that I heard talk about strip club were not the norm, and are considered creepy as fuck, even to other people at a strip club. I have no personal experience with them, and I assumed that they are basically semi-public rub & tugs where you drink.

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      11 months ago

      He got downvoted because what he actually described is more like the super creepy guy who gets kicked out of the strip club. I have never in my life met anyone who “prelubed” weird thin plasticy sex pants before they went to a strip club lol

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        That specific guy had come into work a few times being bruised from having the shit kicked out of him, and he also had porn taped to the inside of his lunchbox. The only people I know who have told me they have been to a strip club have been in his general level of creepy, but Marv was probably the perviest guy I worked with who wasn’t convicted of something.

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      11 months ago

      Having been to my share of strip clubs, this is not what I’ve seen.

      Usually it is just drunk dudes that end up at a strip club after a night out with the boys. People are wearing whatever they were wearing at the bar, jeans are very common.

      Usually it is groups of dudes sitting around drinking and each dude will peel off occasionally for a lap dance or three.

    • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.worldOP
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      thin-fabric pants

      underwear in a material like pleather

      Enlightening! I will never be in this situation, but I’d be curious to browse some shopping links for educational purposes

    • LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 months ago

      Why did someone downvote you? I like your comment. I upvoted it. Hey everybody come over here and upvote that comment up there.

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        11 months ago

        Like I said, I am going off of second-hand information. It sounds like strip clubs are far more tame than I was led to believe.