• Glide
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    3 days ago

    Let’s be real: it’s about control. They want sex on their terms, and paying for it doesn’t put them in control. They say things like “genuine human connection,” while desperately wanting a traditional, subservient woman that they can use to satisfy their needs.

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      3 days ago

      Suggest they should get a mail order bride then, or stop being such an unlikable cunt by raising their self-respect standards.

      In my experience they seem to shut up when you suggest that.

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        2 days ago

        I’d give em the “two wolves inside you” talk - like negativity and positivity. Gotta keep the moral lessons at preteen development levels with these sorts of folks.

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      2 days ago

      What you said is all true, and there’s no excusing that level of rottenness, but I do think there’s a deeper component to it that they do not acknowledge.

      They want to feel good about themselves, which at the core is not unreasonable, but they’ve built up this whole misogynistic mythology where they need a conventionally attractive woman - mind, body, and soul, in order to feel safe and happy.

      But I’m convinced that even if they somehow stumbled into this unlikely relationship they would still be miserable.

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          Yes that’s very wise. They’ve already shown you that they feel they might “deserve” a certain type of affection, so who knows what they feel entitled to.

          Other men at these social settings also need to take a more active role in 1) detecting, and 2) deterring, incel adjacent behaviour.