But W.V. believes his daughter “is vulnerable and is not competent to make the decision to take her own life,” according to Feasby’s summary of the father’s position.

“He says that she is generally healthy and believes that her physical symptoms, to the extent that she has any, result from undiagnosed psychological conditions.”

Her only known diagnoses described in court earlier this month are autism and ADHD.

  • Omega_Haxors@lemmy.mlEnglish
    25·
    8 months ago

    You would think that when the person you’re taking care of would rather kill themselves than spend another day with you, you’d notice that you’re doing something very, VERY wrong.

    • TimLovesTech (AuDHD)(he/him)@badatbeing.socialEnglish
      6·
      8 months ago

      Holy shit is that is a very bad take!

      You don’t know a thing about this guy. And to put all her pain on him without knowing shit about either of them is completely out of line.

      And it is possible to be surrounded by love and still have a void that cannot be filled. Just knowing you’re “different” can be a mind job in and of itself. But making this all about the dad diminishes her feelings, her pain, her guilt.

      /rant

      • Omega_Haxors@lemmy.mlEnglish
        11·
        8 months ago

        Except yes I totally can make it about them because having a support network that produces negative results is why this sort of thing happens.

    • BCsven
      2·
      8 months ago

      I’m going to play the otherside argument: if there are underlying mental health issues you can sometimes do everything right and the loved one isn’t able to receive it or process it without a negative filter and they want to leave the world anyway.

      We had this happen with a family member. Validation, love, therapies, medicine changes, activities. Their brain just was not working right and thought our love etc were “faked” so you make them less guilty. Had MAID been an option they would have chosen it.

      They had a suicide attempt that 99% should have killed them. From extreme trauma their personality was fractured, as it came back together there was a eureka moment for them.

      They occassionally struggle with bad days when idle, but overall they say they can’t believe they were trapped in that mindspace and couldn’t see how much they were valued and loved. They, and we, are thankful for this second opportunity.

      Not everyone can be “fixed” or their suffering eliminated, but every single case is unique…and family want to hope that person see the otherside.

      But I will 100% vote in favour of people having this choice, because if somebody lives to 90 and everyday was hell then that is not living anyway