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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • I think that depends on personality type. If you are an impulse person, then yeah its going to be spending spree and stupid shit. The narcissit type that amasses wealth and uses it to suit their agenda would already have accumulated the wealth. And then there are people like me that lead a simple life and money means nothing. A prime example is a friend, he owned a large company employing 100s of people, he was in the right market at the perfect time and made excellent decisions along the way for the company. When I met him he was probably multimillionaire but was driving a 90s Honda. His attire was general casual vibe. You would never realize he could literally do anything he wanted or live anywhere in the world by his appearance or personality.


  • Joy in seeing the other person. Warm comfort. Early in the relationship it is at the highest, partners sacrifice their own “usual” to align with their partners needs. However by the two year mark people have let their facade drop and they reveal more of their true self and what they need daily. This often feels like the love has faded, since your partner is expressing their needs and not just fulfilling your own. This either kills the relationship as people think they fell out of love and are now annoyed by their partner, or the partners take more of the “love is a choice” route and continue on, with communication and acceptance of partners quirks. Having open communication without blame helps this process. Then you both start building on a solid foundation of time, past support, trust and mutual caring. Here love is often not described as the heightened falling in love feeling, but something more calm and enduring.














  • I agree that conversations can sometimes be in depth online, however having a really good best friends can have same depth in person.

    The studies noted that we are communal beings and body language and eye contact fufil a part of our needs. A zoom call where participants saw each other but avoided eyecontact measured lower on brain response than zoom call with eye contact.

    It could be why many people have lots of online friends but still suffer depression.