The best you can do, as far as I know, is run wireshark on both ends. You’ll watch the packet leave your network and never arrive on the other end. This doesn’t prove it’s your ISP but it will prove it’s not your fault.

At least Ford’s buddies are happy /s

Yep, I’m a Linux Sysadmin/DevOps and married a developer. Your experience is the same as mine as all my friends are IT also.

We don’t play games but we do fun shit together. I self host everything and she adds on to it. Almost all our smart home logic is hers. Aside from tech we are completely different people too so a lot of the time is spent doing our own thing happily together in the same room.

Nope… Not now anyway

Because they’re unhappy and don’t communicate with their partner. I’m happily married and I’d say no such thing my wife is my nest friend.

When hanging out with my other married friends they all had complaints and turned in to a bit of a bitching fest. “My wife does that too!” Sort of thing. All I could think is that it’d be easily solved if they talked to their wife…

Huh, no, I had no idea that was there. Thank you.

I have /home/username/username/ and I sym link important dirs (like Downloads) to my new home. I strongly dislike all the dot files and dirs cluttering up my home dir.

For what reason? Am I missing out on something?

Seems like it’s better to just pay now if you have the cash.

Huh?

Yup

It’s all about responsibility or time in my eyes.

Let’s say you can pay $100/month for forums and it’s maintained by someone else. They do updates, manage storage, etc, etc. If something goes down they fix it.

Or, you can self host it for $10/month on a VPS. Are you really saving $90 a month when you’re on the hook for everything? If it goes down, will you have time to fix it or is your time better spent working with a customer to get income?

Now consider this for all the services you need. Which ones are actually worth running yourself?

I need more pictures

Looks like it’s out. I’m not home but I’ve been lurking 4chan and found something I need to try later today

It’s not so much about the ports, its about what you’re running that’s accessible to the public.

If you have a single website on 443 and SSH on 22 (or a non-standard port like 6543) you’re generally considered safe. This is 2 services and someone would need to attack one of the two to get in.

If you have a VPN on 4567 and everything behind the VPN then someone would need to hack the VPN to get in.

If you have 100 different things behind 443 then someone just needs to find a hole in one to get in.

Generally ssh, nginx, a VPN are all safe and they should be on their own ports.

So TACO Tuesday is on the 14th this month?

That title gave me a stroke.

NC is kind of a pain to run and tries to do far to much. I’d pick different software to run than adding addons to nextcloud.

That being said, I add contacts and calendar and use it to sync to my PC/Phone

It seems like it’s everyone these days. I always look at other people at a stoplight and see at least one person every time I’m out.

Thanks, I removed the pic but left the link for context.

Edit: apparently this is really bad google translation.

https://lemmy.ca/pictrs/image/0811d5be-daba-4383-bd34-f8eb3b9f2dd1.png