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  • Do you have adult friends, aunt, uncles, grandparents, whatever, that can spent quality time with your children

    Yep.

    is every adult a potential abuser

    Yep.

    you watch them all with the same level of scrutiny?

    Nope.

    Keep in mind that child abuse is most commonly perpetrated by someone the child knows, often a relative or a close family member. Access, proximity, trust, power dynamics, secrecy, and etc all play into it.

    I don’t have to be always present when my child is someone, with say, a grandparent. What is important is that communication between myself and my children remains open and that any compromising or inappropriate behavior is revealed when it happens.

    Children need to be taught that certain behaviors are never permissible and certain areas of their body are absolutely off limits to anyone save their parents or doctor. Any adult that tells them to keep a secret is doing something that’s absolutely not okay. I could elaborate more and give more details, but I’m hoping you get the premise. And yes, there’s always exceptions to things.

    Parents should keep an eye on people who interact with their children. Children should be prepared to know what is okay and what is not okay. Anything that falls outside those bounds should be reported to a parent. Perhaps it was nothing. Perhaps it was the start of something absolutely inappropriate. You don’t know unless you communicate.

    What happened to the kids in this article never should have been permitted to happen. And yet as the environment was created for abuse, it seems no one stepped in or did anything.

    To be honest this is something what I’d expect to hear from survivor who hasn’t processed their trauma. I’m not trying to tell you you’re wrong to be vigilant, but to me this reads like a subconscious cry for help. I might be totally wrong, in which case I’m sorry.

    I’d like to think you mean well by your comment, so no need to be sorry.

    I absolutely hope that a victim of such abuse would be vigilant. Unfortunately, that might come out pretty distorted if they haven’t processed things. For those who have suffered and got the help they needed, I would hope that they remain vigilant. And for those who’ve never been a victim, I would hope they also be vigilant.

    There’s a reason a lot of countries have mandatory reporting laws. There’s a reason a lot of organizations have youth protection training now. There’s also a reason numerous organizations have been sued to oblivion for allowing child abuse to persist and for not properly addressing it when it happens.

    Take some time to look up child abuse statistics, the perpetrators, how it was allowed to happen, and etc. I think you might be surprised by how common it is and how some simple steps can very seriously mitigate it.

    Vigilance means remaining watchful and being intentional, not paranoid.


  • It’s a figure of speech. I simply mean being vigilant with interaction between my children and others (adults in particular). To not do so, wouldn’t be good parenting IMO.

    They are part of organizations and institutions that have troubled histories with child abuse. One of my children just spent the weekend on a trip with such an organization. They have strict policies ensuring youth are never alone with adults. One-on-one communication is forbidden. All adults participating are required to take youth protection training and look out for specific signs. If an adult needs to say something to a youth, then it’s done publicly. If it’s digital, then I as their parent am always included in the conversation. Etc etc.

    Child abuse is widespread, not uncommon, and care must be taken seriously.

    If you and everyone you know has been free of abuse, then I’m so so very glad for you and them. However, for millions and millions, that hasn’t been the case. It’s all too common and very hidden.

    Being vigilant with child protection is not something I will be apologetic for.


  • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OPtoLemmy.ca Support / QuestionsTime outs
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    Alright, @[email protected]. Here’s some more information.

    General Findings

    • Problem occurs on the WebUI as well while logged into Lemmy.ca.
    • Problem occurs regardless of WebUI front-end used.
    • Problem occurs regardless of Andriod apps used.
      • Exception: Eternity (Nightly). I don’t know if they poll for information differently or what, but I can endlessly scroll without issue at the moment.
    • Error outputs are unfortunately inconsistent between FEs. (The standard mobile UI shows no error and sim.)
    • Problem occurs both with and without VPNs employed.

    Findings by Server

    • lemmy.ca: BE: 0.19.7
      • Problem instance and My primary.
    • lemmy.world: BE: 0.19.3-7-g527ab90b7
      • No issues observed. Logged in with Boost & Voyager using alternate account.
    • beehaw.org: BE: 0.18.4
      • No issues observed. Logged in with Boost using alternate account.
    • lemm.ee: BE: 0.19.8
      • No issues observed. Logged in Anonymously via Voyager Android App.
    • feddit.uk: BE: 0.19.7
      • Will try if/when they approve the account request.
      • Really want to try this since they are using the same BE as lemmy.ca
    • lemmy.sdf.org and another instance with BE: 0.19.3
      • Will try if/when they approve my alt accounts. If someone knows an app where I can browser sdf as anonymous, then I can do it now.

    Errors By Application Note the differences in how the error is presented. Sending timestamps and IP to @[email protected] via DM for the following:

    1. Boost (Android)

    1. Voyager (Android)

    1. Photon as Android Firefox PWA via lemmy.ca

    1. Lemmy WebUI via lemmy.ca

    simply renders empty after the timeout. this was page 2



  • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔toFunny: Home of the Haha@lemmy.world*sigh*
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    Funny because it’s haha funny. Funny also with a laugh that includes tears acknowledging how messed up at all is.

    Taxes can be simplified for all. Taxes can be fair. Taxes can benefit the multitude.

    And for reasons that seems very intentional, no matter how much politicians talk about reform, the system continues to favor the rich and privileged. Those that need help the most continue to get ignored.

    So much could be fixed.

    So much could be better.






  • Admittedly, there is so much about this that I don’t understand. I most definitely don’t think that the solution is using billionaire owned data harvesters. I haven’t used social media like this for over a decade because it’s clear how we and our information is used and abused.

    At the same time, I’m unfortunately all too acquainted with authoritarian states. For people to hand over their data to such a state–intentionally–is just mind boggling to me.

    So, yes, you’re right. I’m misunderstanding a lot. I am not able to wrap my head around how the content of TikTok and/or other billionaire owned media platforms are worth everything that one has to give up to use them. I actively avoided such companies and, as such, the allure of the content doesn’t draw me in. Sure, there are things that I miss, but I don’t see the exchange as worth it.

    Perhaps for some, the move to RedNote is a protest against the arbitrary banning of a single app among a sea of so many others doing the same thing. Perhaps it’s meant to expose the intent of the US and Western governments knowing they will inevitably fold (as the US currently seems to be doing), then the ends will just restore things to the way things were before… which is still terrible. Perhaps it’s just addicts chasing their next fix. I’m sure there’s lots of reasons driving it. From the outside though, it all seems crazed.

    There is so very much about all of this that I will never understand. Well, I suppose I do understand enough about human nature to get it. It simply disturbs me. And all the while, the billionaire corps are going to do everything in their power to acquire and use people’s data for their own gain. Governments will leverage it with ill intent. And people will willingly let them.