It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?
pegging
don’t knock it until you’ve tried it
🤣 💜
Well played.
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you’d not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.
Now this is what I’m talking about. 💯
Full disclosure, I peeked at your comment history.
How about those phone mounts and maybe a neat 2-in-1 tripod/monopod for your binoculars? Or a shoulder sling?
Otherwise, my go-to is an experience like others suggested. Escape room, paint nite, afternoon of pool/ bowling/ mini golf, Top Golf, cooking class, museum visit, comedy night, hockey game, roller skating, hiking, music bingo/pub trivia, or consider a hotel room nearby for the night with an indoor pool or my absolute favorite…a cabin weekend with a hot tub and a real wood-burning fireplace.
Damn it! I clearly want things! Why don’t I think to write these things down!?
You’re only slightly creepy for looking at my comment history, but also pretty dang smart for doing so.
It would take some research, but maybe they can help with that. I think that’s the frustrating part for them because they don’t know the first thing about these things, but hey… they are the ones who want to get me something. Haha.
Years ago, they bought me clamp on lenses for my phone, but it did not fit. I have a new phone now and I would love lens that I could mount to it. There’s a company that makes custom cases so they easily attach. I didn’t want to bother getting a new case, but my partner might want to do just that.
And if I don’t dig it, we can always return it and try again. Hopefully that wouldn’t be too offensive. I’ve done that in the past and never ended up buying a replacement item even though I promised I would. 😬
So yeah, an attachable lens or mount that would affix my phone to my binoculars when birding. And I think there are monopod stands, kind of like a tripod but only one leg, which can be used to keep things like binoculars stable. Maybe something like that if it isn’t too weird looking. Lol
Thank you, creepy internet sleuth! It’s so funny that I wrestle with what to think of when I know I’ve expressed interest in things. I don’t know why I couldn’t think of that on the spot. I very rarely actually get those things, but others might want to go that extra step and actually get them as a gift!
This can work!
Mines comin up as well… I always struggled to be in the “here and now” and been too busy for years and dropped most of my hobbies, found a very old camera that I bought in 2010-11 from the storage room… Its too big, started looking at what is currently available, found Ricoh griiix, saw some forums with the sensor results and pocketability; might get me back into photography, back into “here and now”… Take a look if you are into that… Just leaving this thought here…
It’s a great idea. I did nearly the same exact thing some years ago. It helped a lot. It grounded me. Rejuvenated me. I want to be there again. TMI: since then, life has blown up… more than once… and left me pretty mangled. Hobbies and those life giving things dissipated. Mental health declined again. I started drowning in work and survival. But slowly I’m getting into a better place. I miss those walks with camera in hand. Watching life unfold around me. Capturing creatures living life in all their funny ways. Yes, I quite liked that. And while it may not happen in time for my bday, that craving is there and that’s a good thing. I hope you’re able to spend more time in the here and now, with camera in hand. 💜
Beans
Jamon Iberico
Life size model of Captain Picard
Escape Room
8000 Hamsters
Ketamine
Dinner at a fancy restaurant
Art
Bathtub of chocolate pudding
An escape room with 8000 hamsters and ketamine. Now that’s a birthday
Lol
My eyebrows actually went up and hand went to my chin when I read life-size replica of Captain Picard. Lol.
I would have nowhere to put such a thing and would never actually want it…
But it would be absolutely hilarious and I’d love it nonetheless. 😁
It’s one of those things that you hide away for most of the year, but every now and then, when your partner’s forgotten about it, you move it to the bathroom in the middle of the night 😁
Oh man. There definitely would be uses for such a replica. I just had a lot of fun generating stupid ai images of this scene:
Generate Jean-luc Picard in bed, wearing a robe that is open to reveal a hairy chest. He’s on his side, propping up his head with an arm. He has a pipe in mouth and is wagging his eyebrows, inviting you to join him.
Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like “all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don’t need anything more.” If that even is something you’d even want to do of course. Don’t force it if it isn’t what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you’re happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I’d probably just say “get me a big ol’ bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I’ll be in heaven.” :P
There’s a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.
Tell them the they are the only gift you need and how lucky you are to have them in your life. Anything material just pails in comparison.
Ha! To which they will then melt in my arms and kiss me and tell me just how wonderful I am… only to then punch me in the arm and say… “now tell me what I can get you, dammit, or I will hurt you more!” 😁
To list of things anything you could want:
- Goods
- Services
- Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
Pick something you already have and use often, like a phone charger or an office chair or a pair of shoes, and ask for a higher quality version of the same thing. Something that will last longer or be more comfortable.
Now this is a good idea. Genuine thanks!
Food? Everybody likes food, right?
Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever
Consumables are great. It opens up for repeatability and the receiver is never stuck with dust collectors.
You want a fun day trip that you don’t have to plan?
You want a purple rubber dildo
You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.
Purple is my favorite color. 😁
She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It’s what I usually want on my birthday.
A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.
Or, if you don’t have boots, you can ask for those.
I don’t have boots… 🤔
😁
With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn’t have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine’s my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there’s a thing you’ve been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
Not a bad idea. I just have to want a thing first. I really need to wrack my brain. Ugh. I know there’s something I can pull out of there. Something that I wouldn’t be a huge control freak over, something that they can fully research and figure out without me minding the details. The poor spongy mash is crawling on fumes because of how busy work is and what life seems to have done to my poor gray matter.
if i wanted something other than a bag of cocks i would just buy it
