In recent weeks I have met a pretty and sweet girl with what I consider her only biggest problem: her IQ. She is slow, does not remember things and has no concentration at all, has no arguments, systematically repeats the usual twenty words. (A bit like the character of Forrest Gump, for those who do not know what low iq means). I feel like I like it to go deeper, but I wonder if it’s not a mistake. Do you have similar experiences?

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    Should I start a more intimate relationship? Does anyone have similar experiences? Can this difference of intelligence create unpleasant situations for both of us?

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      Probably not. Does it bother you now, would you be embarrassed by her because of it? If yes, then definitely don’t.

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        I wonder if other qualities can overcome this, if perhaps intelligence in a relationship does not need (i have never had a relationship)

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          i have never had a relationship

          Based on your posts I’d recommend you take what you can get and not judge a book by its cover.

          Hope you’re not rejected by someone you feel superior to, as this can lead to your personality to be even less likeable than currently.

          Back to topic: why do you ask people who don’t even know her?

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          What matters at the end of the day is wether you truly care for each other and wether you’re both happy. There’s a possibility that it would work out and a possibility that it wouldn’t. Your romantic partner doesn’t necessarily need to meet all your needs, intellectualy or otherwise.

          Seeing as you don’t have any relationship experience I say go for it. There’s no harm in taking someone on a date. In fact that’s the point of going on dates, to know people better so you can decide if you want to pursue a relationship.

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      If she consents to having a more intimate relationship and you’re operating in good faith, cool.

      If neither one of those things is true, just let it go dude.