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      I’m Asexual and mine is higher than 5.

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        Dude. Me too. Not saying some of those were from feeling pressured when I was younger , but a handful was from genuine (tho fleeting) interest.

        My logic is, I rarely (very rarely) feel that way so when I do and there isn’t any obvious reason why I shouldn’t (i.e they are in a relationship, or they are a co worker ) I go for it.

        My perspective: . Life is only once. Enjoy yourself (or someone else) when you can.

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        Serious question out of curiosity, is it like a mental arousal only thing, or occasional sexual arousal thing? If I’m out of bounds I’m sorry. If you prefer not to answer or if this makes you uncomfortable, please don’t bother answering.

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          Sexuality is a complex thing for anyone. Regardless of whatever identity they use for themselves.

          I have actually a lot of friends who are asexual-ish. Once you are out with yours, you find that other people are more open with you about this.

          For some people they still want a romantic partner but have little to no interest in sexual acts with others.

          For others , like myself, I have no interest in romantic partners. And very little to no interest in sexual acts with others.

          Some asexuals have normal or even high libido but don’t feel that emotion directed towards others. I would describe this as like wanting a snack but you open the fridge and there isn’t anything in there you want.

          Some have very low to no libido.

          Some people who are very picky about partners and take a long time to feel comfortable, to be sexual, also sometimes call themselves asexuals.

          I’m not here to gatekeep but that really does sound like average sexual identity for most people. But if someone wants to use it for that, it’s their choice.

          There are like 10 sub terms for asexuals but I personally find that superfluous. Everyone is different. I don’t need a special label. If I want to explain myself, I will.

          Labels are limiting. And they sometimes make someone else think they get your whole deal when they don’t.

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      I know, right? That’s only barely cracking into serial killer territory. How am I supposed to respect a woman if she’s not an accomplished and highly experienced assassin?

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      5 is a high body count only if you’re a woman. If you’re a man it’s basically nothing and you should aim for at least 100 body count.