It was my understanding that the names for these things came about to help facilitate negotiations with prostitutes, which would make them jobs. These actions didn’t require names in any other social context because missionary was the only socially acceptable sex act and anything else was simply “sin”.
This isn’t a capitalist failing, it’s a religious failing.
Porque no los dos?
Okay I’m choosing violence on this one so downvote away if you must. This is not an American thing, it’s a patriarchy thing. We are conditioned and constantly reinforced with the idea that sex is about subjugation and not intimacy in our language and culture. All my life I’ve heard phrases like “suck my dick/balls” used as an insult across all genders and then when I am expected to perform such acts in the context of a loving relationship my brain outright refuses to associate that with an act of love and my partner acts all surprise Pikachu about it. The patriarchy and our common language insists that sex is bad at the detriment and isolation of everyone. Men in particular are isolated and conditioned to never give/receive love or even recognize their emotions with the only consolation being that they are given permission to subjugate women. And so the culture persists through our own unwitting actions as people are impeded from ever fully connecting with each other in perfect love and perfect trust. It’s shit like this that keeps the patriarchy in control and us under control.
… but I like being humiliated a 'lil tho
(Seriously, very insightful)
I guess it’s true that things like eating a woman out, fingering a woman, and scissoring don’t have the “-job” suffix.
Great write up, this highlights how powerful the way we use language can be, and why it’s important to consider the words and vocabulary we choose.
The way we use language affects the way we think, it reframes topics and normalizes ideas.
Patriarchal expressions are what we call “loaded”, similar to how calling an immigrant “alien” strips them of their humanity, or using the terms “blacklist” and “whitelist” reinforces “white good, black bad”.
Loaded language can be used accidentally, or strategically to convey a particular emotion, and language can equally be unloaded, such as in the case of “letting go” instead of “firing”, or “passed away” instead of “died”, it distances the concept from the underlying emotion.
“Get fucked”, “Go fuck yourself”, “Blow me”, “Eat my ass”, so many along a similar vein I never considered. Great write-up; I’ll never think about those things the same way again.
Amen.
You have seen though all the bullshit. Very very well said.
preach <3 <3
Very well put argument.
We (Americans) use the word job for all those things, but actually getting paid for them is illegal. 😡
I mean they would want getting paid for any job to be illegal, so they are just ahead of the curve on the labor laws right now.
I once had someone ask me if a blowjob was a yin or yang act. I said I thought it was yin and they got mad and I said a blowie is an act of nurture. I never forgot that lesson - people will do absolutely anything to make you feel bad about a rulejob.
There’s one word for onion
also there’s praca/zawód for job
I just assumed the first comment was lies to begin with
It is honest work, and hopefully the one performing the labor gets to reap the rewards of such work. Though maybe I have been convinced that the value of my labor is less than what it really is? 🤔
