I guess she has to cope somehow since it has not even been a year since they got married and they already had a huge fight. She complained about his kids staying over at their house (ex wife has them for 2 weeks, then he has them for 2 weeks) cause she hates kids & doing stuff for them; and he got very angry and essentially told her to get the fuck out if she doesn’t like it cause she knew what she was signing up for and to never talk badly about his children again cause they come before her. She truly dreamed that after he divorces he’ll drop his entire family and start a brand new life with her.
Wow, I knew she wouldn’t be the brains of any operation but I didn’t think I’d be siding with the cheating douchefuck so completely. Like, she’s really got those premium blinders on to think all that, damn. Unless he had said he’d leave it all but at that point I don’t believe either of them enough to make any judgement or assumption.
I also didn’t think I would be on the cheating husband’s side but good for him standing up for his kids. I’ve seen far to many fathers drop their kids for their new girlfriend/wife.
Are people not allowed to have a huge fight until after 1 year in the relationship?
Fights happen. A relationship that never fights is unrealistic and a problem. This insinuates to others that fighting in the first year is bad or wrong, and that’s just not necessarily true.
I think what OP was pointing out was the severity of the fight, and the way that it has illustrated fundamentally different expectations of this new relationship so soon – not just that there has been a fight within the first year because you’re right, disagreements are normal and usually healthy.
A relationship that never fights is unrealistic and a problem
I’m not sure how you define “fight.” For me (and probably many others), it conjures an image of violence hostility.
A lot of people in relationships resolve disagreements through discussion. If a partner were unable to discuss an issue without shouting (or worse), they wouldn’t remain my partner. Point is, being able to resolve issues in a mature way is a basic requirement for many relationships.
I know that isn’t everyone’s experience though. I can only imagine how much crap you’ve been through for “relationship fights” to feel so normal. I’m sorry, that has to really suck. :(
Edit: Changed some words. Also, I’m truly surprised that this many people seem to think that shouting at a partner is normal/healthy.
In a marriage/committed partnership, I think most people would consider a fight to be an argument with raised voices and some ill feeling. I really don’t think most people consider shouting to be violent. Upsetting, maybe, but violent?
Fair enough. But do most people really think it’s healthy to shout at their partners when they disagree over something? I’m kind of shocked at how many people are voting as if that’s a normal expectation in a relationship.
Besides the “meme” being cringe inducing garbage at a similar level to ‘live, laugh, love’. Just seems like copium or self aggrandising.
I guess she has to cope somehow since it has not even been a year since they got married and they already had a huge fight. She complained about his kids staying over at their house (ex wife has them for 2 weeks, then he has them for 2 weeks) cause she hates kids & doing stuff for them; and he got very angry and essentially told her to get the fuck out if she doesn’t like it cause she knew what she was signing up for and to never talk badly about his children again cause they come before her. She truly dreamed that after he divorces he’ll drop his entire family and start a brand new life with her.
Your sister sounds immature. Might help if she did therapy or even a self help book.
Going to take a lot of therapy to therapy the cunt part of her away
Wow, I knew she wouldn’t be the brains of any operation but I didn’t think I’d be siding with the cheating douchefuck so completely. Like, she’s really got those premium blinders on to think all that, damn. Unless he had said he’d leave it all but at that point I don’t believe either of them enough to make any judgement or assumption.
I also didn’t think I would be on the cheating husband’s side but good for him standing up for his kids. I’ve seen far to many fathers drop their kids for their new girlfriend/wife.
Fucking pathetic
Ah. The blissful happy ending that they both deserve. Thank you for sharing.
Are people not allowed to have a huge fight until after 1 year in the relationship?
Fights happen. A relationship that never fights is unrealistic and a problem. This insinuates to others that fighting in the first year is bad or wrong, and that’s just not necessarily true.
Fights happen for sure. But the reason? She has no fore thought.
It’s like you read the first sentence and then stopped
I think what OP was pointing out was the severity of the fight, and the way that it has illustrated fundamentally different expectations of this new relationship so soon – not just that there has been a fight within the first year because you’re right, disagreements are normal and usually healthy.
I’m not sure how you define “fight.” For me (and probably many others), it conjures an image of
violencehostility.A lot of people in relationships resolve disagreements through discussion. If a partner were unable to discuss an issue without shouting (or worse), they wouldn’t remain my partner. Point is, being able to resolve issues in a mature way is a basic requirement for many relationships.
I know that isn’t everyone’s experience though. I can only imagine how much crap you’ve been through for “relationship fights” to feel so normal. I’m sorry, that has to really suck. :(
Edit: Changed some words. Also, I’m truly surprised that this many people seem to think that shouting at a partner is normal/healthy.
In a marriage/committed partnership, I think most people would consider a fight to be an argument with raised voices and some ill feeling. I really don’t think most people consider shouting to be violent. Upsetting, maybe, but violent?
Fair enough. But do most people really think it’s healthy to shout at their partners when they disagree over something? I’m kind of shocked at how many people are voting as if that’s a normal expectation in a relationship.
No, of course it’s not healthy. I’m just saying it’s not violent.
Most home wreckers are self aggrandizing hypocritical narcissists, so… yeah.