A relationship that never fights is unrealistic and a problem
I’m not sure how you define “fight.” For me (and probably many others), it conjures an image of violence hostility.
A lot of people in relationships resolve disagreements through discussion. If a partner were unable to discuss an issue without shouting (or worse), they wouldn’t remain my partner. Point is, being able to resolve issues in a mature way is a basic requirement for many relationships.
I know that isn’t everyone’s experience though. I can only imagine how much crap you’ve been through for “relationship fights” to feel so normal. I’m sorry, that has to really suck. :(
Edit: Changed some words. Also, I’m truly surprised that this many people seem to think that shouting at a partner is normal/healthy.
In a marriage/committed partnership, I think most people would consider a fight to be an argument with raised voices and some ill feeling. I really don’t think most people consider shouting to be violent. Upsetting, maybe, but violent?
Fair enough. But do most people really think it’s healthy to shout at their partners when they disagree over something? I’m kind of shocked at how many people are voting as if that’s a normal expectation in a relationship.
I’m not sure how you define “fight.” For me (and probably many others), it conjures an image of
violencehostility.A lot of people in relationships resolve disagreements through discussion. If a partner were unable to discuss an issue without shouting (or worse), they wouldn’t remain my partner. Point is, being able to resolve issues in a mature way is a basic requirement for many relationships.
I know that isn’t everyone’s experience though. I can only imagine how much crap you’ve been through for “relationship fights” to feel so normal. I’m sorry, that has to really suck. :(
Edit: Changed some words. Also, I’m truly surprised that this many people seem to think that shouting at a partner is normal/healthy.
In a marriage/committed partnership, I think most people would consider a fight to be an argument with raised voices and some ill feeling. I really don’t think most people consider shouting to be violent. Upsetting, maybe, but violent?
Fair enough. But do most people really think it’s healthy to shout at their partners when they disagree over something? I’m kind of shocked at how many people are voting as if that’s a normal expectation in a relationship.
No, of course it’s not healthy. I’m just saying it’s not violent.