• expatriado@lemmy.world
    672·
    2 months ago

    as someone with a job, studying a masters and in partial custody of a toddler, i won’t get the middle panel for a while

    pro tip: take your toddler to a library with kids section, they leave you alone while they play with other kids while you study

    • Toneswirly@lemmy.world
      13·
      2 months ago

      YMCA near me has a supervised kids section if you wanna drop em off and go for a swim or something. Kinda scary leaving em with a stranger but you gotta do what you gotta do for sanity.

    • MystikIncarnateEnglish
      2·
      2 months ago

      I want to get my degree. No kids, but I’m in IT. When I went to secondary education, they didn’t have degree courses for IT. They have a few now, and I’m starting to see “degree” being a requirement in job postings for my line of work…

      The problem I have is that I can’t even apply to universities for the course, they only offer it as a full time course. I have bills to pay, I can’t possibly take 4 years off to get a degree. I have 10 years of experience in IT support. I just want to move up to more senior positions, I have no interest in management. I like being in the trenches with my fellow techs. I can’t move because most of the places I’ve worked for are pretty small shops; so I’m at the highest level, but the highest level is barely above helpdesk.

      My main issue is that I don’t know universities and their enrollment systems well enough to even start to obtain my degree. I can’t get them to talk to me; every time I send an inquiry, they give me the most generic and useless info, then tell me that they can tell me more if I’m accepted, meaning I have to apply/enroll first, and they don’t have an option to enroll part time for a course I’m interested in.

      Sigh.

    • dubyakay
      21·
      2 months ago

      I hate parents that come to the library while I’m there with my own children and they expect me and staff to clean up shit after their kid while they study.

      • bassomitron@lemmy.worldEnglish
        7·
        2 months ago

        It depends. If their kid is well behaved and their parents are close by (within a ~10 feet/~3m of the child), I don’t mind much. I only get annoyed when kids’ parents just straight up leave the immediate area without asking me first if I can keep an eye on them for a few minutes. Though, in the library, it isn’t that big of a deal, since the kids areas tend to be well monitored by staff and open enough for parents to have clear line of sight. And I am 100% not afraid of telling a stranger’s kid to clean their shit up afterwards in the library. If they get mad at me I’ll just point up at the big board with the rules in our library that says to clean up after yourself.

    • MisterFrog@lemmy.world
      9·
      2 months ago

      I feel like practically every second session I’m qualifying some situation of feeling stressed with: “Unfortunately with the current economic system we have I need to…”

      I wouldn’t be working so hard all the time if I didn’t need to so that I might possibly be allowed to have a permanent place of residence -_-

      • squid_slime@lemm.ee
        2·
        2 months ago

        I’m there with you, useful for me was joining community projects. they give me meaning

  • dubyakay
    19·
    2 months ago

    This is the opposite for me. Children are at daycare/school during the week. I finally get to have some thoughts to myself.

    Weekends can be a nightmare when it’s bad weather.

    • I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world
      311·
      2 months ago

      Sounds like you shouldn’t have had kids. Beyond the fact that it’s an incredibly selfish act in today’s world, you don’t seem like you like them.

        • The Snark Urge@lemmy.worldEnglish
          3·
          2 months ago

          Isn’t it weird to imagine someone having the gall to say that in person? It’s not even clear what they’re hoping you’d do even if you did somehow agree.

          • dubyakay
            2·
            2 months ago

            It’s okay. Probably just r/childfree leaking

            • The Snark Urge@lemmy.worldEnglish
              2·
              2 months ago

              I know, it just gets my goat seeing struggling parents get berated. We love our kids, but nobody told us it’d be all fun and games raising them.

            • I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world
              24·
              2 months ago

              When parents watch their kids, it’s not “babysitting” it’s being a parent. You know, the thing they CHOSE to do. If it’s a nightmare for them, then maybe they made the wrong choice.

              • The Snark Urge@lemmy.worldEnglish
                4·
                2 months ago

                Sorry, I assumed you aren’t a parent - in which case it would be called babysitting. Shove it up your snide asshole, you weasel.

              • GeneralVincent@lemmy.worldEnglish
                2·
                2 months ago

                They said it CAN be a nightmare when it’s bad weather. Being a parent is hard, and there are parts that are mentally, physical, and emotionally exhausting. Especially when they’re so young they could die just sleeping the wrong way.

                You’re being unnecessarily obtuse and combative. It brings nothing to the table and alienates the people you’re talking to. If you want to be taken seriously, try approaching the subject with a little bit of maturity and empathy. You can even have the same message that someone isn’t right to have kids, without coming across like a random asshole on the Internet

          • dubyakay
            1·
            2 months ago

            I never said that. Do you wish me to quote myself or can you go back two posts and reread it by yourself?

  • Crackhappy@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    2 months ago

    Thank the universe, I don’t have a job like that. Most of the time I get very bored on the weekends and look forward to the challenges my job presents.

    • Danquebec@sh.itjust.works
      4·
      2 months ago

      I have a challenging and interesting job as well, but having young children, my weekends are busy. But even without children, I know I’d always have something to do. I always do things I like to do when I have free time.