I created a dating profile, using words Carolyn dictated from her bed

  • tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    3 months ago

    Many saying “how can she, let him grieve” vs “some don’t attach”…

    Third option… They recognize love doesn’t diminish if there happens to be another, and she wants him to have someone to help him through grieving.

    I have 2 partners, and if I knew I was dying I’d want both of them to find someone I trust will care for them.

    • chumbalumber@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      One of the nice things about the internet is that people are able to peer-peer share life experiences that vary so completely from one another. Polygamy for me is something I know wouldn’t work, but I value hearing the experiences of those for whom it does, and a lot of the lessons (a key one being recognising jealousy within yourself early) they have to teach.

      • Possibly linux@lemmy.zip
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        3 months ago

        How is it lovely? She is trying to replace herself. At least let the husband morn for a while.

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          3 months ago

          No, she is not, she knows he will stay with her to the end of her life, but his life will carry on, she has helped him find a partner to share the grief and ease the feeling of pain from the loss.

          This is increadibly sweet and thoughtful.

        • corsicanguppy
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          3 months ago

          Nonsense.

          My wife is smart and funny and nice and beautiful. Our marriage is great, but life is short, and she deserves happiness once I’m gone.

          “Til death” means you part then. It’s all good.

  • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I can’t imagine ever agreeing to that. If my wife were dying I would be crushed. The light of my life would be extinguished. I wouldn’t want anything other than to spend her remaining time with her, and I would not even consider dating again after she was gone.

    • Maalus@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Some people get attached, some completely don’t. And one of the groups isn’t able to comprehend the other.