• evasive_chimpanzee@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Elbows have always been allowed on the table. The rule for fancy dining was that you couldn’t have elbows on the table during a course, i.e., when people are actively eating, but before/after, it’s fine. That’s a reasonable rule to be considerate of space.

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      5 months ago

      Never been an issue for me. The issue would be invading someone’s personal space. Maybe we just have bigger tables where I live.

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      5 months ago

      If elbows aren’t allowed on a table during a course of a fancy dinner, they have definitely not always been allowed on the table.

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          If you have a large number of people eating in comparison to the size of the table, and the table is already covered in food, the only place on the table to put your elbows is in other people’s personal space.

          The rule should be “no elbows right next to someone else’s food” but neurotypicals are terrible at communicating due to their underdeveloped social skills and empathy.

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            5 months ago

            Oh no. One of those “my mental disability is my superpower, actually it’s the normies that are wrong!” people. Return to the subreddit whence you came.

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              And here we have yet another example of malformed empathy. I haven’t used Reddit in over a year, but you think you can read my mind and see that I have. Some people just don’t have any social perception skills. I think maybe we should teach empathy classes in schools so that the neurotypicals have a chance to catch up.

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              Yes, neurotypicals are indeed able to have large family dinners. But they have to do it using table manners as a crutch. They can’t just have an honest conversation about what’s really necessary, they need to rely on this social construct to tell people what to do without explaining why. It’s a great weakness. If only the average person weren’t so afraid to introspect and to question why we do things.

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                5 months ago

                Tell me you have autism without telling me you have autism.

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                  Which is kind of the point he is making. Instead of engaging in a honest talk and understanding the reasoning behind social norms, they are just pushed as normative and understandably confusing to people who struggle with “just behave like everyone else, lol”.

                  Ironically this is exposing us neurotypicals to be socialy underdeveloped instead of non neurotypical people.

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                  except he literally implied it to you, and is trying to have an honest conversation about it

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        5 months ago

        Well it’s never been an issue in any space I’ve eaten in, so I think you’re wrong.