A more stable relationship is when feelings crystalize, but until then, there’s limerence. Two-way limerent relationships are as unstable as a bottle of undiluted nitroglycerin. In any case, limerent relationships are quite common, and are the stuff of music, art, and poetry.
It was crazy. “I love you! I can’t live without you! I’ll kill myself if you leave!”
Next day I’d find a hickey on her neck and get messages from some dude’s wife telling me her husband was fucking my wife.
“That’s not what happened. When I said, “what happened with us” I was talking about a conversation we had at the bar! His wife is lying! She’s crazy by the way. Everyone knows she lies about everything. That physical evidence isn’t physical evidence. You’re crazy. You made all of this up in your head.”
Just get help bud. Don’t let it fester and ruin your life.
When I finally realized I couldn’t salvage my family, she ended up involuntarily committed. She pulled all of her hair out and dragged us into court lying to everyone.
Good luck. Seriously.
Edit:
Oh yeah, as far as loved until hated, I was god until I wasn’t, then everyone in town was convinced I was a violent rapist and a monster until I was god again. Man. Glad all that is over.
A central feature of limerence for Tennov was the fact that her participants really saw the object of their affection’s personal flaws, but simply overlooked them or found them attractive.[32][28] Tennov calls this “crystallization”, after a description by Stendhal in his 1821 treatise On Love. This “crystallized” version of a love object, with accentuated features, is what Tennov calls a “limerent object”, or “LO”.[33]
For Tennov, sexual desire is an essential aspect of limerence[34] but the desire for emotional commitment is greater.[35] The sexual desires of Tennov’s interviewees were overshadowed by their desire for their beloved to contact them, invite them out and reciprocate their passion.[30]
Limerence can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often derided and dismissed as undesirable, some kind of pathology, ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.[36]
The wiki page you linked is saying kind of the opposite about crystalization then what you are saying.
God lemmy is worse than reddit with people being negative about others happiness. If you are so unhappy you need to spoil other peoples happiness you need to get help.
I agreed with you up to the point where it appeared as if you felt that logophiles are miserable and spread misery. That being said, I appreciate your perspective and I’m sorry sharing what brings me joy has the opposite effect on you.
That’s limerence.
A more stable relationship is when feelings crystalize, but until then, there’s limerence. Two-way limerent relationships are as unstable as a bottle of undiluted nitroglycerin. In any case, limerent relationships are quite common, and are the stuff of music, art, and poetry.
This read just like the stuff that a girl with BPD would write about me haha.
How y’all think that went for me?
Oh and I’ve never heard that word. Thank you.
Edit: You’ve sent me down a rabbit hole.
I’m guessing poorly. I have BPD myself. She loved you up until she hated you.
It was crazy. “I love you! I can’t live without you! I’ll kill myself if you leave!”
Next day I’d find a hickey on her neck and get messages from some dude’s wife telling me her husband was fucking my wife.
“That’s not what happened. When I said, “what happened with us” I was talking about a conversation we had at the bar! His wife is lying! She’s crazy by the way. Everyone knows she lies about everything. That physical evidence isn’t physical evidence. You’re crazy. You made all of this up in your head.”
Just get help bud. Don’t let it fester and ruin your life.
When I finally realized I couldn’t salvage my family, she ended up involuntarily committed. She pulled all of her hair out and dragged us into court lying to everyone.
Good luck. Seriously.
Edit:
Oh yeah, as far as loved until hated, I was god until I wasn’t, then everyone in town was convinced I was a violent rapist and a monster until I was god again. Man. Glad all that is over.
The wiki page you linked is saying kind of the opposite about crystalization then what you are saying.
Both uses are figurative, so we needn’t fret.
Ty for teaching me such a beautiful word
God lemmy is worse than reddit with people being negative about others happiness. If you are so unhappy you need to spoil other peoples happiness you need to get help.
I agreed with you up to the point where it appeared as if you felt that logophiles are miserable and spread misery. That being said, I appreciate your perspective and I’m sorry sharing what brings me joy has the opposite effect on you.
The guy’s sharing information, it’s all cool