To me the sexist part is that some doctors will treat a man asking for a vasectomy vs a woman asking for a ligature differently?
Oh you want a vasectomy? Let’s get into my office. 10 minutes later and its done. No fuss, no speech.
Oh you want a ligature? But your potential partner might want kids, it would be unfair… 🙄
I’m sure most wishes to do no harm and want to ensure their patients are well-informed and can weight the consequences of that choice (which in itself is a good thing), but they should offer the same level of inquiry to both to be fair, not just assume that a man knows more that they don’t want kids compared to a woman.
That’s frustrating. If they refuse to do it, they should at least have to provide a referral to another doctor who will handle it if their beliefs get in the way.
If their beliefs get in the way, they need to find another profession. This is pretty well established across the entire industry.
You must provide the same level of care for a pregnant teen, a smoker dying of lung cancer, or a neo Nazi. It doesn’t matter how their lifestyle offends you.
A friend of mine went to get a vasectomy after his second kid was born and the doctor either talked him out of it or refused. He now has a 3rd kid and went to a different doctor.
I asked for a Vasectomy. The doctor went through the: have you been married, do you have kids, how many? questions. it is standard here to ensure the patient has thought about the consequences in case it can’t be reversed.
You’re absolutely right. Such procedures should be treated the same, as much as is appropriate. (vasectomies are a much more minor procedure, so things like recovery support would be different)
To me the sexist part is that some doctors will treat a man asking for a vasectomy vs a woman asking for a ligature differently?
Oh you want a vasectomy? Let’s get into my office. 10 minutes later and its done. No fuss, no speech.
Oh you want a ligature? But your potential partner might want kids, it would be unfair… 🙄
I’m sure most wishes to do no harm and want to ensure their patients are well-informed and can weight the consequences of that choice (which in itself is a good thing), but they should offer the same level of inquiry to both to be fair, not just assume that a man knows more that they don’t want kids compared to a woman.
I’m a man and my family doctor just refused saying I will regret it later. She said it would be different if I was over 40. I was 33 at the time.
That’s frustrating. If they refuse to do it, they should at least have to provide a referral to another doctor who will handle it if their beliefs get in the way.
If their beliefs get in the way, they need to find another profession. This is pretty well established across the entire industry.
You must provide the same level of care for a pregnant teen, a smoker dying of lung cancer, or a neo Nazi. It doesn’t matter how their lifestyle offends you.
What part of the world was this?
In Canada, Quebec
I don’t go see her anymore, I’d rather not have a family doctor than this stupid doctor.
A friend of mine went to get a vasectomy after his second kid was born and the doctor either talked him out of it or refused. He now has a 3rd kid and went to a different doctor.
I asked for a Vasectomy. The doctor went through the: have you been married, do you have kids, how many? questions. it is standard here to ensure the patient has thought about the consequences in case it can’t be reversed.
You’re absolutely right. Such procedures should be treated the same, as much as is appropriate. (vasectomies are a much more minor procedure, so things like recovery support would be different)