Hello,
First of all I don’t really get the actual meaning of “please”. I understand it as it used to make a polite request. However I have rarely seen any westerner saying “please” on either Lemmy, Mastodon or IRC. where I live using “please” (मेहरबानी) is used often.
At a restaurant, or with people you don’t know it is common to use please and thankyou, less common with family, but still done. But online writing, please and thankyou seems uncommon