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  • Slatlun@lemmy.mltocamping@sh.itjust.worksGot swarmed with wasps
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    16 days ago

    When I am camping (and when I’m not) I try to think of my position in the world. Is the scorpion in my shoe invading my space or am I passing through theirs? Who should have the right to be there? Do they only get to exist if they play by my rules, or do I acknowledge the right of things that scare me to have a place in the world? Will I be someone who lashes out or someone who makes space?

    You are totally in the majority with your actions, and I’m not trying to lay anything on you at all. I only wish we as a species could extend a little more kindness when it is the emotionally hard choice.





  • Slatlun@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldOnline Dating (2 questions)
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    1 month ago

    It feels bad when you put in time and thought without any response. That’s not their fault. It isn’t your fault. Something didn’t jive and that was a miss for both of you.

    There is no expectation. Just like you don’t have to respond to me here. Actually, I take that back. The expectation is that they (and you) will only engage their own (or your own) terms. Neither of you owes the other anything.

    What would I do? I would take no response as a hint and back off entirely. Matching carries absolutely no obligation to respond to me.