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    There are some things that are referenced that way, but the majority of things were/are out in the open.

    I donā€™t want to go down this rabbit-hole, but the accusations arenā€™t anything new. In fact, theyā€™re decades old and he was given a pass, multiple times. And at some point, yes, people will start seeing excuses as a farce.

    Whether you think what he said was in fact e.g., transphobic is another matter. I personally doubt that he has much of ā€œhateā€ for most or any of the groups, but, at the end of the day, he treats people in very demeaning matter. And he doesnā€™t seem to be capable of understanding why, what he does and says, is bad. And thatā€™s fine ā€“ but not as a spokesperson. But thatā€™s my personal opinion. My point is mostly about

    • almost everything being on the table
    • the accusations arenā€™t new
    • either you can agree that the accusations are right or wrong.
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      I personally doubt that he has much of ā€œhateā€ for most or any of the groups, but, at the end of the day, he treats people in very demeaning matter.

      And every time he treats people in a bad manner he should be reprimended. This isnā€™t about tolerance towards hurting people, but about judging if the person is actually a ā€œmisogynist, ableist, and transphobicā€ and all sorts of accusations the open letter claimed.

      not as a spokesperson

      Oh, we could agree on that.

      I might have even agreed with the letter myself had it been more reasonable. But removing him from every ā€œposition of powerā€ isnā€™t the same as banning him from being a ā€œspokespersonā€.

      In fact, the letter misses the point so much that even if the FSF had listened to it, it would have still been perfectly possible for RMS to abandon any hope for joining any advisory board and end up as mouthpiece for defending Free Software, doing even more public speakingsā€¦ essentially making him more of a ā€œspokespersonā€.

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        The problem is, him not being a spokesperson was something that was, in fact, asked multiple times before. But somehow, him still being ā€œin powerā€ get gets himself into position to become a spokesperson again. This is nothing new.

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          Too bad this time they decided to use insults and serious accusations rather make the argument you are making, which is somethig a lot more people would have agreed with.

          As it is, the request from the open letter is missing the point. RMS having such position is not what allows him to become a spokeperson. He doesnā€™t even need the FSF to go out and make public appearances in representation of the movement he founded (even if heā€™s not representing the FSF, that matters little). It might have actually ended up making the problem with RMS social ackwardness and the image of the movement worse if it meant kicking RMS out and leaving him to his own devices (and to his own ā€œtone deafā€ social skills). Heā€™s still connected to the Free Software movement (heā€™s almost more of a figure in the movement than the FSF itself is) and removing him from any and all organizations is not gonna change that.I wouldnā€™t be surprised if this had damaged the FSF more than it would have damaged RMS (which for the looks of it was the intent). The letter was asking for the wrong thing in the wrong manner.

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            A lot of people could have agreed all the years before ā€“ they didnā€™t. full stop.

            Insults? No, accusations, sure. His behavior was more than inappropriate and that was called out. Iā€™m baffled how one can rile up so much about the wording of the letter, but when RMS said something far more insulting thatā€™s okay, for some reason.

            And no, it matters whether heā€™s part of the FSF. Either heā€™s speaking on behalf of the FSF ā€“ or not. That heā€™s literally ā€œMr FSFā€ is indeed bad and part of the problem.

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              A lot of people could have agreed all the years before ā€“ they didnā€™t. full stop.

              The signees didnā€™t suddenly change opinion and agreed on something they disagreed with before. Like you yourself said, ā€œthis is nothing newā€, Stallman has been heavily criticized multiple times by his social behavior. I expected youā€™d have agreed with me in that.

              The only thing that makes this time different is that they started collecting signatures and getting organizations to sign for an open letter that was created as a knee-jerk reaction to RMS being admitted in the board of directors of the FSF. A collective campaign as public and well known as this had never happened before, but people accusing Stallman in a such a way have existed for many many years. This is nothing new.

              Iā€™m baffled how one can rile up so much about the wording of the letter, but when RMS said something far more insulting thatā€™s okay, for some reason.

              Note that Iā€™m not saying the people who signed (or even wrote) the letter are bad, or toxic, or any other adjective. Iā€™m saying the letter itself (not who wrote it) is misdirected and could result in toxicity. This is the same kind of criticism I throw at Stallman. Itā€™s not in me where youā€™ll see the contradiction.

              Iā€™m sure who wrote the letter had the best of intentions, and most likely they were motivated by a will to improve the FSF, not hurt it. I just think the approach was incorrect. Not only in the wording but also in the demands they made.

              If instead explaining that what I say is incorrect, someone tells me that I lack the capacity to reason, I see that as an insult.

              The only way for it to not be an insult is if they came with solid evidence of the claim (ie. solid proof that Iā€™m unable to reason). Then it will just be a description of what I am, based on proof. But Iā€™ll feel insulted if you call me ā€œfascistā€ and Iā€™m antifa. Would you not feel insulted if you were accused of being the complete opposite of the values you hold dearest?

              Stallman has proven more than once that heā€™s a person committed to the ideals he holds (and one of them is to end ā€œracism, sexism, antisemitism, caste prejudice, and othersā€), and has also proven that when confronted about a topic in conversation he can change his mind (as he did about his views on child consent). So if we are to categorize him with the dehumanizing accusations the letter used, we better have solid proof that it wasnā€™t a mistake, that he really deserves it and that his public statements stating the opposite are a farce. Because heā€™s known to be misunderstood pretty frequently due to his social impairment. This is nothing new.

              Iā€™m all for criticizing him about his mistakes and confronting him, even to the extent of making him take responsibility for his social behavior. I can agree that he should not be a spokesperson for the movement, so I rather have him in a role where he can provide direction on the topics heā€™s good at (and that could be within a board of directors) but making it a rule to avoid using him as spokesperson in situations that could result in harm for others. Thatā€™s what the letter should have demanded, instead it demanded to remove Stallman from all directive positions (and not just him, but the entire board!) all the while throwing unfair accusations that could lead to him being dehumanized by many when done in such a public way.

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                The signees didnā€™t suddenly change opinion and agreed on something they disagreed with before. Like you yourself said, ā€œthis is nothing newā€, Stallman has been heavily criticized multiple times by his social behavior. I expected youā€™d have agreed with me in that.

                I feel like weā€™re talking past each other here: I do agree! That is, indeed, part of my very point. Heā€™s been criticized many times, but hardly ever changed (we come back to that later).

                If instead of explaining that what I say is incorrect, someone tells me that I lack capacity to reason, I see that as an insult.

                I never intended to insult you, by the way, if that came of as such. I very much enjoy the discussion.

                However, how would you word a letter like that, when you know, from decades of experience, that the person will likely not change their behavior the same way they didnā€™t for years? Without implying that the person either a) lacks capacity to reason or b) is outright malicious? You ask for solid evidence, but ā€¦

                The only way for it to not be an insult is if they came with solid evidence of the claim (ie. solid proof that Iā€™m unable to reason).

                The problem here is that many of the things are done, due to the nature of the org, in private. To add a personal story of my hackerspace at university: RMS was in the city and we allowed him to stay for a day in our room at university. Little did we expect him to not move out at all. The only way to get him out again was to pay for a ticket to the next conference. Sure, one can add this to the huge list, but unfortunately I hardly can provide ā€œproofā€. Nobody collects such things.

                But, proof is not needed as we donā€™t want to judge him in front of a jury. The FSF in almost all accounts does already know what the people are talking about. This letter is not addressed to the public to hold condemnation and grudge against RMS, but addressed to those who know of the incidents. Usually this would be an ā€œinternal investigationā€, however the FSF doesnā€™t do such thing.

                Proof definitely would be nice, absolutely. But asking for proof of things that happened internally is asking for the impossible. Thatā€™s why I donā€™t judge people who hold him dearly, they are very much allowed to do so.

                I even understand if he feels insulted or attacked. Heā€™s confronted with the accusation that heā€™s not what he thinks to be. In fact, Iā€™ve been rightly accused in the same way, and honestly, it was hard, very hard. Sometimes, Iā€™d say, it was wrong, but sometimes the other person was indeed right. They couldnā€™t always provide proof, but they called out behavior in a message to me and I knew what they were talking about. The next step, though, wouldā€™ve been to call me out publicly, in case I didnā€™t change.

                Stallman has proven more than once that heā€™s a person committed to the ideals he holds (and one of them is to end ā€œracism, sexism, antisemitism, caste prejudice, and othersā€), and has also proven that when confronted about a topic in conversation he can change his mind (as he did about his views on child consent). So if we are to categorize him with the dehumanizing accusations the letter used, we better have solid proof that it wasnā€™t a mistake, that he really deserves it and that his public statements stating the opposite are a farce. Because heā€™s known to be misunderstood pretty frequently due to his social impairment. This is nothing new.

                Itā€™s not about ā€œdeserving punishmentā€ but protecting others, and the FSF, from harmful behavior. And, while I agree that his changed view on child consent isā€¦ a good thing to say the least, itā€™s a very bad thing if peopleā€™s identities (e.g., trans, non-binary people) are invalidated and disregarded (despite scientific evidence!) because heā€™s being pedantic about words. His hybris to think that, just because ā€œwordsā€ he has more knowledge on this topic than leading psychologists is telling. But worse is that trans or non-binary persons shouldnā€™t need to defend their very existence and identity at every corner in life. At some point (after decades of years) they cannot be expected to still talk and discuss with him, in very tiring and disrespecting discussions, what and who they are. Mind you, itā€™s great if minorities go out and tell people how it is to be X, but these people should be allowed to just live their life at some point.

                And RMS with his stances in the FSF isā€¦ not exactly a nice space for most of them. Proofs would be nice, and him changing his opinion would be nice as well. But this is much work that we can, perhaps, expect of the society as a whole but not from the minorities that are already discriminated against.

                And I agree that, in theory, the letter should demand just revoking him as a spokesperson. But do you seriously believe that this would stick? He basically made him member again w/o consulting with the board before ā€¦ he speaks when he wants, and just not making him spokesperson wonā€™t change that. Unfortunately.

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                  First of all: sorry for the huge wall of textā€¦ as you can guess I also enjoy the discussion.


                  I never intended to insult you, by the way, if that came of as such. I very much enjoy the discussion.

                  Oh sorry, thatā€™s not what I meant.

                  It was an example to illustrate why I called some of the accusations of the letter ā€œinsultsā€, I didnā€™t want to imply that you insulted me. I should have said ā€œsomeoneā€ there (in fact I think I did it in a later edit but I might have been too lateā€¦ ugh).

                  how would you word a letter like that, when you know, from decades of experience, that the person will likely not change their behavior the same way they didnā€™t for years? Without implying that the person either a) lacks capacity to reason or b) is outright malicious?

                  Why not just state the facts and let them speak for themselves?

                  Intentionally hurting people would definitely be a cause to remove him. I expect thatā€™s actually against the FSF code.

                  The thing with making a public open letter like this is that you need to convince not only the FSF but also those that you are asking signatures from. Specially if theyā€™re also being asked to boicot the FSF donations and events.

                  proof is not needed as we donā€™t want to judge him in front of a jury. The FSF in almost all accounts does already know what the people are talking about. This letter is not addressed to the public to hold condemnation and grudge against RMS, but addressed to those who know of the incidents.

                  Then it shouldnā€™t be surprising to see a counter-reaction from those who do not have account of those incidents and who do not think the accusations are deserved.

                  Like you said, this should not have been about ā€œdeserving punishmentā€ but about protecting others. Yet the letter seemed to be seeking punishment for his behavior without really talking much about the victims, the harm and what caused it.

                  Even if they really did believe that RMS is behaving like that on purpose out of malice/phobia/insanity/whatev, had they made the exercise of assuming that it was a reiterated and constant mistake would have gone a long way to actually get the point across. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

                  Itā€™s also ironic that when they actually try to give examples, the only thing they show are either things that have been later corrected by RMS himself (like the child consent thing, but also the GNU Kind Communication Guidelines) or things that when in context are clearly misunderstandments (he clearly isnā€™t saying that every single down syndrome child must be abortedā€¦) or about that publicly available email thread about Minsky where heā€™s really not saying anything crazy when you actually read through it.

                  RMS was in the city and we allowed him to stay for a day in our room at university. Little did we expect him to not move out at all. The only way to get him out again was to pay for a ticket to the next conference.

                  That must have been quite a thingā€¦ he also came to my University (ages ago) and I heard some things from the organicers about how particular he was. I donā€™t really remember the details but I can imagine there are many stories like that. Heā€™s definitelly very quirky. But Iā€™m sure thereā€™s more than one board of directors with a ā€œstrangeā€ nerd on it.

                  itā€™s a very bad thing if peopleā€™s identities (e.g., trans, non-binary people) are invalidated and disregarded (despite scientific evidence!) because heā€™s being pedantic about words.

                  I agree, but are you refering to this? https://stallman.org/articles/genderless-pronouns.html

                  I get that heā€™s trying to ā€œrespect the wishesā€ of non-binary people without really understanding what their wishes are. And knowing how particular he is about the correct manner of saying ā€œGNU/Linuxā€ I can imagine how a conversation about the topic with him could be difficultā€¦

                  My understanding is that seeking a gender-neutral pronoun can actually be the wrong call, even as an heterosexual male I would find it patronizing if Stallman used the gender neutral pronoun on me, so I expect the same would happen for someone who identified as ā€œsheā€ / ā€œtheyā€ or any other pronoun. But is it actually transfobic?

                  The open letter is locked now and they even closed the issue tracker, but before they closed it there was this comment from a trans person who actually thought accusing him of being a transfobe was too much.

                  But do you seriously believe that this would stick? He basically made him member again w/o consulting with the board before ā€¦ he speaks when he wants, and just not making him spokesperson wonā€™t change that. Unfortunately.

                  But asking for his removal and the disolution of the entire board did not stick either.

                  And even if it had, he speaks when he wants. Do you believe that not being in the board would have changed that?

                  If the intention was to play poker and ask for something crazy to try and get anything at all thenā€¦ well, it shouldnā€™t be a surprise for crazyness to be called out and have mixed reactions that result in the real point getting lost, mudding the waters. Sure, in the end it might actually work (thereā€™s already some reaction inside the FSF, if that what was intended) but at what cost? many portrayed this as a ā€œwitch huntā€ and I donā€™t think those reactions were completely unjustified. This is not just bad image for RMS is also a bad image for the anti-RMS crowd, to the point that an anti-anti-RMS letter came up with 6000+ signatures.

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                    np, Iā€™m glad this is mutual!


                    Oh sorry, thatā€™s not what I meant. Youā€™ve been very respectful.

                    phew, I sometimes have the issue of coming off condescending, which I definitely do not intend :)

                    Why not just state the facts and let them speak for themselves?

                    Those facts are difficult to state, since they are mostly related to interpersonal evens like the one I stated. Although I agree that this wouldā€™ve been preferable.

                    Intentionally hurting people would definitely be a cause to remove him. I expect thatā€™s actually against the FSF code.

                    The thing with making a public open letter like this is that you need to convince not only the FSF but also those that you are asking signatures from. Specially if theyā€™re also being asked to boicot the FSF donations and events.

                    I get your point here, but thatā€™s, to me the crux of the situation: These are internal events and often in violation of the FSFā€™s own code. Thus, there shouldā€™ve been an internal investigation, but that didnā€™t happen. The problem then though is: What now? As with allegations of (sexual) abuse, those things are hard to proof to the public. However, the FSF board very much knows of (most of) the cases they allude to, and they are the addresses.

                    However, as you correctly observe, itā€™s an open letter since they need to build pressure on the FSF. But they canā€™t ā€œjust state the factsā€ for the reasons mentioned. This is, definitely, a difficult situation.

                    But I donā€™t think everyone ought to ā€œdecideā€ to support one or the other letter, especially those completely outside of the circle. As they, indeed, have very little insight into what happened. Itā€™s an ugly situation, I totally agree with that.

                    Then it shouldnā€™t be surprising to see a counter-reaction from those who do not have account of those incidents and who do not think the accusations are deserved.

                    Absolutely, it isnā€™t surprising! The problem with the whole situation is that it should have been solved internally but hasnā€™t. Such things are predestined to go badly.

                    In the end, the immediate circle of people affected (including the FSF board) can really judge. But also, in our society, it is simply a fact that everyone needs to position themselves, despite not actually really being in charge.

                    Like you said, this should not have been about ā€œdeserving punishmentā€ but about protecting others. Yet the letter does not talk much about the victims, the harm and what caused it. It does not really explain how removing Stallman stops him from that abuse or what mistakes the FSF itself has done that have been a consequence of Stallman being part of the board. The letter does come off as seeking punishment for his independent behavior.

                    I didnā€™t read the letter that way, but I can see how it can be read as punishment. I can not counter this and have to say that this shouldnā€™t be (wasnā€™t?) intended. I agree that discussing the problems the FSF had due to RMS would indeed have been a very healthy addition.

                    Even if they really did believe that RMS is behaving like that on purpose out of malice/phobia/insanity/other, had they made the exercise of assuming that it was a reiterated and constant mistake would have gone a long way to actually get the point across. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

                    Absolutely. In the end, the letter was an act of frustration long boiling and it reads that way.

                    Itā€™s also ironic that when they actually try to give examples, the only thing they show are either things that have been later corrected when brought to the attention of RMS himself (like the child consent thing, but also the GNU Kind Communication Guidelines) or things that when in context are clearly misunderstandments (he isnā€™t saying that by law all children with down syndrome should be forcefully abortedā€¦) or about that publicly available email thread about Minsky where heā€™s really not saying anything crazy when you actually read through it.

                    What I agree with is that they donā€™t properly differentiate b/w a) clear violations of other peoples personal identity or similar and b) bad PR stunts. From what I know, both things happened, while the former are usually internal issues (thus shouldā€™ve been resolved internally) and the latter, by definition, public. Taking the Minsky statement, what he said was not really crazy but uncalled-for and absolutely unnecessary pedantry. Furthermore, similar wording is also chosen in malice by those who are defending sexual abuse and belittling victims. I do think RMS wasnā€™t aware of what he did was basically unintentional ā€œdog whistlingā€ but this is very bad PR nontheless, and thus harmful to the FSF as a whole. Especially if it happens repeatedly, and no ā€œsorryā€ or ā€œcorrectionā€ later can, unfortunately, fix the publicity problems that result from it.

                    It would have served them well if they had made a distinction b/w these two things.

                    That must have been quite a thingā€¦ he also came to my University (ages ago) and I heard some things from the organizers about how particular he was. I donā€™t really remember the details but I can imagine there are many stories like that. Heā€™s definitely very quirky. But Iā€™m sure thereā€™s more than one board of directors with a ā€œstrangeā€ nerd on it.

                    Sure, but quirky becomes bad rep when it ends in inappropriate behavior like pressing students with little money to pay for (quite expensive) tickets, by simply living in their ā€œworkplaceā€. He was told to end this behavior multiple times, but didnā€™t change. And thatā€™s kind of the issue.

                    Also, when heā€™s called to give a conference like this, normally itā€™s for him to talk about his philosophy and personal history in the Free Software movement, independently of whatever his position is in the FSF. Kicking him out from the FSF is not preventing that scenario.

                    Sure, but then itā€™s bad rep for mostly him and the Free Software movement (bad enough), but the FSF could easily do something like distancing themselves from him. This would do them very good in all such occasions.

                    I agree, but are you referring to this? https://stallman.org/articles/genderless-pronouns.html

                    Itā€™s possible that heā€™s trying to ā€œrespect the wishesā€ of non-binary people without really understanding what their wishes are. And knowing how particular he is about the correct manner of saying ā€œGNU/Linuxā€ I can imagine how a conversation about the topic with him could be difficultā€¦

                    I think the key point is ā€œwithout really understanding what their wishes areā€, and maybe thatā€™s the distilled version of almost all criticism of RMS. Either he doesnā€™t care or he thinks he knows better what people wish for than themselves. At first, this is annoying or funny (GNU/Linux pedantry), but when it comes to people and how theyā€™d like to be addressed it quickly leaves that area and becomes downright hurtful.

                    My understanding is that seeking a gender-neutral pronoun can actually be the wrong call, even as an heterosexual male I would find it patronizing if Stallman used the gender neutral pronoun on me, so I expect the same would happen for someone who identified as ā€œsheā€ / ā€œtheyā€ or any other pronoun. But is it actually transfobic?

                    I wouldnā€™t count the usage of it transphobic per-se, but with many things -phobic and -ist, it comes down to the power (im-)balance. That is, in current law and society, a trans person defending themselves to be called the pronoun they want has a much harder stance to defend than a non-trans, cis, person. That is, while from RMSā€™ pov misgendering a cis man by referring to them as ā€œsheā€ or whatever is the same as misgendering a trans person by referring to them with a different pronoun than asked for ā€“ from the affected persons pov this is quite different. Most cis people would definitely feel patronized by it, but they could either shrug it off or, if in public, simply demand him to behave properly. A trans person whoā€™s regularly attacked and invalidated (in our current society) doesnā€™t have this luxury/privilege, and as such, these statements are hurtful and dangerous.

                    Basically, what Iā€™m trying to say is: In a perfect society this wouldnā€™t be much more than patronizing. In a similar way, in a perfect society ā€œblack facingā€ wouldnā€™t be any different than ā€œwhite facingā€ ā€“ but acting as if we were in such a society is wrong and dangerous to minorities.

                    Now, whether this is transphobic ā€¦

                    The open letter is locked now and they even closed the issue tracker, but before they closed it there was this comment from a trans person who actually thought accusing him of being a transfobe was too much.

                    ā€¦ this is definitely a dividing matter. In my bubble (which, uh, contains quite some people whoā€™re trans :p), the overwhelming opinion is that what he did, indeed, is transphobic. Obviously thatā€™s no ā€œproofā€, but it shows that these people, who experience transphobia from other persons in the society on a day-to-day basis, have a hard time distinguishing (unintentional) dog-whistling and ā€¦ patronizing behavior by Stallman from intentional attacks. Mind you, in public most transphobic people (outside of Fox News) disguise their transphobia rather well.

                    While similar things have been reported for RMS as well (i.e., behaving much worse to trans people in private than in public) I donā€™t want to dwell on it, as itā€™s not that much convincing. I think, in the end, it boils down to whether one counts unintentional ā€œattacksā€ as transphobic or not.

                    To open the RMS-like jar oā€™ pedantry, maybe one could say that:

                    • RMS isnā€™t a transphobe
                    • However, he/says does transphobic things and
                    • He has internalized transphobia

                    But then we need to ask ourselves: Does that change much? [to be continued since I reached the character limitā€¦ jeez]

                    EDIT: continuation below in comment to this comment :)