Can you imagine your partner being so focused on the 5 minutes it takes a waiter to bring food to the table that, rather than having a conversation with you or something, they stand up and go pick up their plate unlike every single other human being in that restaurant?
So letting him pick his own plate still have a chance of him contaminating the counter, other plates, break things accidentally, bump into a server, and cause confusion and commotion. Didn’t have to think that hard. :)
Ah right, going upto the counter and coughing on everything is absolutely fine. Oh and you seem to have conveniently ignored every other point as well. Maybe take your own advice and think a little lol. Although if you are gonna argue like a redditor then feel free to continue but don’t expect others to jump into the drainage with you.
They key thing to note here is he does it because he’s impatient, not because he’s such a nice guy. There is no way he’s not a pushy asshole, even if he hides it behind passive-agressive behavior.
I think it’s more like somebody who doesn’t respect this boundary probably doesn’t respect other boundaries, too. This is just unhinged behavior, sorry. It’s at best profoundly embarrassing.
And I’m sure she said this was a “beige flag” because he’s such a great, thoughtful guy. You’re being incredibly obtuse. This is a post about her boyfriend having sketchy behavior.
You’re fortunate to not have experience with pushy assholes who do everything with a polite tone and a smile. You sound like you would be incredibly easy to manipulate - be careful out there.
My boyfriend is a very nice guy. He helps servers do their job by piling the plates when we’re done eating and leaving them at the edge of the table where they’re accessible like a normal human being.
I can promise you from 10+ years of experience in the service industry, getting up to grab your own food, no matter how “polite” your intent is, is never, ever fucking welcome. Not only is it insulting and passive aggressive, but it can cause hazards for the customer and other servers, besides you could be stealing food that’s not even your own. This is absolutely unhinged behaviour.
Editing to add a PSA: it’s also never okay to take food off a server’s tray. That shit takes balance and you will get food or drinks spilled all over you if you pull that shit.
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Can you imagine your partner being so focused on the 5 minutes it takes a waiter to bring food to the table that, rather than having a conversation with you or something, they stand up and go pick up their plate unlike every single other human being in that restaurant?
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Sure. Why don’t you just go into the kitchen and start cooking, too, while you’re at it?
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So letting him pick his own plate still have a chance of him contaminating the counter, other plates, break things accidentally, bump into a server, and cause confusion and commotion. Didn’t have to think that hard. :)
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Ah right, going upto the counter and coughing on everything is absolutely fine. Oh and you seem to have conveniently ignored every other point as well. Maybe take your own advice and think a little lol. Although if you are gonna argue like a redditor then feel free to continue but don’t expect others to jump into the drainage with you.
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They key thing to note here is he does it because he’s impatient, not because he’s such a nice guy. There is no way he’s not a pushy asshole, even if he hides it behind passive-agressive behavior.
I think it’s more like somebody who doesn’t respect this boundary probably doesn’t respect other boundaries, too. This is just unhinged behavior, sorry. It’s at best profoundly embarrassing.
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Yes, I do know that, because it’s explicitly stated.
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And I’m sure she said this was a “beige flag” because he’s such a great, thoughtful guy. You’re being incredibly obtuse. This is a post about her boyfriend having sketchy behavior.
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This is the weirdest hill to die on, compadre
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You’re fortunate to not have experience with pushy assholes who do everything with a polite tone and a smile. You sound like you would be incredibly easy to manipulate - be careful out there.
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My boyfriend is a very nice guy. He helps servers do their job by piling the plates when we’re done eating and leaving them at the edge of the table where they’re accessible like a normal human being.
I can promise you from 10+ years of experience in the service industry, getting up to grab your own food, no matter how “polite” your intent is, is never, ever fucking welcome. Not only is it insulting and passive aggressive, but it can cause hazards for the customer and other servers, besides you could be stealing food that’s not even your own. This is absolutely unhinged behaviour.
Editing to add a PSA: it’s also never okay to take food off a server’s tray. That shit takes balance and you will get food or drinks spilled all over you if you pull that shit.
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