• Zink@programming.dev
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    2 days ago

    Yeah, straight white cis dude in the US here, and god damn is our world embarrassing and sad.

    Not only do I get the thing about women choosing the bear over the random man, but I would be stunned if trans folks of any gender (all of LGBT+ honestly) didn’t lean significantly harder in that direction. Right now, they should.

    But at the same time, if you are close with any of my fellow CisHetCaucs (hehe, cocks) try to give them small opportunities to prove their decency to you, strictly according to YOUR comfort and safety.

    I can imagine some of the assumptions people make about me, even though I totally get it. I’m a tall husky white guy with a big beard, and even though you will never see me wearing a baseball hat and mirrored shades, or Meal Team Six tacticool bullshit, it is totally normal for me to wear jeans and a flannel while walking through the mud and tending to my animals. And I live in a very white, 3/4 republican area, so I imagine that anybody existing outside the puritanical ideals just defaults to hiding and masking.

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      10 hours ago

      I think one thing fhat might surprise you is how little you’re specifically judged. I rarely look at someone’s body and assume their politics unless they have a politicized body. Where you’re gonna get hit is in the “regardless of his beliefs he can probably get away with hurting me”. Alongside blending into the hostile world.

      Like the reason we choose the bear is because we know how the bear will act. It has no benefit to playing nice to hurt us. You keep your distance, hope it isn’t grizzly and stay safe