That’s one thing, but I was referring to steps before that part. I think these people are horrified of the prospect of being attracted to someone and then finding out they were once biologically male so they simply push to make that prospect impossible. Everyone else suffers so they don’t have to suffer any introspection. :/
Ah sorry no It’s okay I can tell you have good intentions. Gender is a hard thing to talk about because of how multifaceted it is.
Like what I think you meant is finding out that person they are attracted to is a women with a penis. They then experiance internalized transphobia causing them to think they have been deceived into being attracted to a man or ‘biological male’ as penises are strongly associated with men by our societies constructed gender binary. When in reality many women have penises. Just as many men have vulva.
being attracted to someone and then finding out they were once biologically male
Also valid I think. I’m looking for a woman who wants to have kids with me so it would really suck for both parties and I would prefer to avoid that awkward situation altogether. That could end up being straight up traumatic for either person
A lot of people can’t have or don’t want to have children for various reasons or medical issues.
Seems like this problem can just be solved by being upfront that you want to have children? No point in singling out any specific reason when the real issue is that you need someone to have children with. Most people would appreciate you expressing your needs upfront.
That’s one thing, but I was referring to steps before that part. I think these people are horrified of the prospect of being attracted to someone and then finding out they were once biologically male so they simply push to make that prospect impossible. Everyone else suffers so they don’t have to suffer any introspection. :/
I know you’re probably not intending this but biological <gender> is so damn transphobic. I’m biologically a trans women. I was born this way.
Sorry! I really don’t know how to properly express these things correctly. This is the first time I’m seeing it discussed in that way though.
Ah sorry no It’s okay I can tell you have good intentions. Gender is a hard thing to talk about because of how multifaceted it is.
Like what I think you meant is finding out that person they are attracted to is a women with a penis. They then experiance internalized transphobia causing them to think they have been deceived into being attracted to a man or ‘biological male’ as penises are strongly associated with men by our societies constructed gender binary. When in reality many women have penises. Just as many men have vulva.
Also valid I think. I’m looking for a woman who wants to have kids with me so it would really suck for both parties and I would prefer to avoid that awkward situation altogether. That could end up being straight up traumatic for either person
A lot of people can’t have or don’t want to have children for various reasons or medical issues.
Seems like this problem can just be solved by being upfront that you want to have children? No point in singling out any specific reason when the real issue is that you need someone to have children with. Most people would appreciate you expressing your needs upfront.
I mean that sounds good on paper but saying you want to have children in the initial stage of a relationship is probably a red flag lol
So is feeling violated at someone not telling you beforehand they’re trans. I’d feel a lot worse with you doing that than asking if I’m fertile.