I never dated as a young woman (GenX) we just hung out in mixed sex environments, did things in mixed sex groups, hung out with people who knew other people, so we had social connections that led to hookups that sometimes led to relationships.
My kids seemed to do much less of that. It seems so hard to navigate this commodified dating scene. My penultimate child was actually asking me to be a matchmaker for her but she has finally found love or at least infatuation with a gorgeous woman. But found her by hanging out with people and going places!
I really, truly believe that hanging out with people is the missing activity. And it helps you in more ways than just romantically, friends are good to have.
Same. I did “dates” several times and it was just artificial and uncomfortable, and cos I’m ASD it didn’t exactly put me on my best foot. Being in a relationship is about being able to be yourself with somebody (and vice versa), and nothing about that whole scene seems designed to help you find that.
I never dated as a young woman (GenX) we just hung out in mixed sex environments, did things in mixed sex groups, hung out with people who knew other people, so we had social connections that led to hookups that sometimes led to relationships.
My kids seemed to do much less of that. It seems so hard to navigate this commodified dating scene. My penultimate child was actually asking me to be a matchmaker for her but she has finally found love or at least infatuation with a gorgeous woman. But found her by hanging out with people and going places!
I really, truly believe that hanging out with people is the missing activity. And it helps you in more ways than just romantically, friends are good to have.
This is similar for me a male and total nerd crowd to but yeah met people by hanging out or being parts of stuff. Met my wife at a sci fi con.
Same. I did “dates” several times and it was just artificial and uncomfortable, and cos I’m ASD it didn’t exactly put me on my best foot. Being in a relationship is about being able to be yourself with somebody (and vice versa), and nothing about that whole scene seems designed to help you find that.