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  • For me, it’s just such a rare treat to have time to myself, so I like it. If you mean without a partner or family, I dunno either, I did enjoy being alone in that way too. I guess I think if you aren’t happy with yourself, you aren’t going to fix that by being with someone else.

    If it’s literal loneliness, I would say make sure to build habits that involve others. Go to yoga class, don’t do it at home. Go get coffee every morning at the same local place. Walk your dog, sit on your front step. Get a job that isn’t done at home. Be in the world, don’t isolate yourself.




  • It probably depends, but in my city (Tampa FL US) the frequency is by far the biggest problem. We live within easy walking distance of 5 different bus routes (on purpose) including one that goes directly to the uni my penultimate kid went to, the community college my youngest attends, my job, both jobs my youngest works, and my husband’s previous office. Without transfers. One bus. So basically we are the best served family in the whole city, right?

    Two of those routes run hourly. The other three only every half hour. So it’s useless for work & school, if you have to be there on time.

    This is a degradation of service, too - when I went to the same university, I lived by a bus route that went directly there, and ran every 15 minutes. Buses need to run every 15 minutes to be useful, even if the routes are good.

    Paying is not so bad now with the tap to pay but free would streamline the whole affair for sure.




  • RBWells@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldRam
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    One year on my birthday, years ago, my mom gave me a gift in a jewelry box. I was inwardly groaning, but when I opened it, it was memory for my computer. Which was a thoughtful gift, and a funny way to package it.

    Way ahead of her time I guess.




  • I’m not trans but a lady into skincare, with a trans kid (boy now).

    Tretinoin, Retin-A, is the night cream of the gods. It both controls acne and slows aging, I have used it for so many years and it’s really paid off. Ask your doctor if it would help you.

    That’s the backbone of my routine. I wash with CeraVe bar “soap” (it’s not soap), use a toner, DMAE gel, then at night the tretinoin, in day a light estrogen cream and mineral sunscreen. Lots of prescription stuff but I have NO genetic predisposition to great skin so it takes maintenance to have great skin.

    For body care, try (not daily) a high potency glycolic acid lotion made for KP, that will help the skin turn over faster. Use that every few days, and between just moisturize daily with something light - CeraVe is good, and Naturium also make great stuff, neither are crazy expensive.

    Not fashionable, personally, and my kids and their girlfriends have such different styles. Good luck to you!




  • Well we do live in a city neighborhood and don’t have to drive much.

    Car insurance on two cars not used daily $400/month here, gas immaterial. But the cost of the cars (paid off) was so much money, if spread over a 15 year life (mine will go longer maybe, but that’s unusual) would add another $125 each, so $650 plus gas and maintenance (less maintenance cost because cars were bought pretty new).

    My daily commuter is a good electric bike, $2,000 plus electricity (I could charge it at work tho) and maintenance. I don’t know how long they last, so can’t estimate a per month but insurance for a year costs less than one car costs for a month.

    Transit pass here about $50 a month. But buses are terribly infrequent.



  • Shivering does nothing, rubbing my hands together just makes my arms tired. When it’s not cold just cool, I can exercise (like go run up and down the stairs) and build internal heat. But not when it’s really cold.

    When I was pregnant I couldn’t get cold, it was nice, I think that must be how a lot of people feel - I had a heater inside me. I wasn’t really too hot in the summer even pregnant, could still be still and cool, but not too cold in the winter at all.