• GrammarPolice@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    Unbridled proof that young single hetero-males and young single hetero-females cannot just be friends.

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          I’ve had plenty of platonic friendships. I lived with one girl for 4 years and we get along great. Our birthday is one day apart and even though we live 1000 miles apart we still celebrate our birthdays together every year. She’s married and I’ve made friends with her husband and I’m married and she’s friends with my wife. So yeah, it’s possible if you’re not a dumb neanderthal and see women as people.

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      I am a 40 year old man and I have multiple lifelong female friends.

      Sure, I bumped into the problem of a one sided romantic interest a few times in my life, but I have lifelong platonic female friends.

      I also have lifelong female friends who I have slept with. The stars aligned to make it happen (like both of us going through a breakup) but we knew it wasn’t going to be anything else and we talked about it and never mentioned it again. That’s a rare, rare, rare thing though. It probably could have developed into more if we had wanted the same things, but we didn’t and we discussed it.

      It is possible. I’m living proof.

      Hell, I’ve shared beds with some of these lifelong female friends and nothing happened. We’re still friends today. I got lucky and landed a woman who trusts me and doesn’t question my intentions because she knows that I wouldn’t cheat on her for all of the gold on the planet.

      One of my lifelong female friends is a bit odd though, and she always messages my wife to let her know she’s about to contact me before she does. We’ve both told her she doesn’t have to do that, but she’s a very pretty woman who is used to making jealous women suspicious.

      I mean sure. It’s a bit more to navigate at times but it is doable.

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              Not married. And you being specific doesn’t help.

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                  I’m going to assume you just want negative attention.

                  It’s that, or you aren’t mature enough to have friends that are adults.

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                    I have one friend who’s over 30. And no, i wasn’t looking for negative attention, but since that’s all i got, might as well ride the wave.