• kender242@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    This is a very generic question but I think I know where you’re coming from.

    A lot of people react to things rather than consider what effect they want. Look at what you’re doing, and ask yourself if you think this will get you the change or response you want.

    i.e. Sometimes yelling, or flipping someone off at road rage can feel good, but it doesn’t get that driver to reconsider their poor driving. Give them a shameful finger wag and you’ve got them thinking…

    Pause and reflect on what you expect your behavior to accomplish.

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      8 days ago

      RE the road rage finger, I have kids in the car so I started giving a forceful, emphatic thumbs-up. I like the finger wag idea though - gonna try that.

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        7 days ago

        I always go for the exaggerated thumbs up, especially when someone cuts me off or tailgates me. Really throws them off.

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      8 days ago

      Probably looking for stories and here I gave some advice. Will sit down now and get some popcorn.