Um. So. I’ve been wearing a lot of tight sweaters recently and starting to show a bit too much nipple, so I bought some bras. Why just now? I guess I felt I didn’t really “deserve” one, or I’d be “dressing up”, or something, and wanted to wait for a good reason. Or two :3

Anyway, it’s super comfortable, the padding really helps with sensitivity, and I looove what it does for my silhouette. BUT. I’ve been dressing somewhat androgynous up till now to give my hair / face time to catch up, and to me at least this is a big step into “this person is obviously dressing fem (wearing a bra)” territory. Which is kind of scary.

I’m not really sure what I’m asking here, sorry. I like presenting fem; I want to be perceived as fem; but I guess I’m kind of scared I look like a man in drag? Is anybody actually going to notice?

  • Drusas@fedia.io
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    30 days ago

    I’m not saying not to use bras, but if nips are the concern, another option is pasties which just go over the nipples. I think that’s what they’re called. You also might find them more comfortable if you don’t need the support a bra provides. Or you might just find them weird. Worth a look, anyway.