Example: I’m awful when it comes to the kids waking up throughout the night. It’s not so much that I don’t deal with it well, cause I do, but more that the prospect of it causing significant anxiety in me.
It’s something I’m working on every single day, but still something that gets the better of me at times, especially now I’ve got a school age kid who’s coming home sick every few days.
Where do you feel like you need to improve as a parent?
I’m a big believer in giving the kids the space they need to mess up. My partner isn’t wired that way though, so it does cause a bit of tension at times.
Love your philosophy though. They learn through doing, and sometimes that’s good and sometimes that means they overextend and drop a glass on their foot.
It’s really hard to live it. I’m a control freak, so it doesn’t come naturally to me.
It’s not just that - if I constantly nag them about little things, I’m teaching them to ignore me.
And I’m being a dick, because I’m telling them they’re constantly doing things wrong, which has a self esteem cost. My big guy is really sensitive, so I need to watch that. I don’t want to push him away because I don’t like his tidying technique.