Also the sheer level of sadism that comes out in a relationships story about infidelity
Everything short of admitting to fantasizing about murdering the cheater gets you called a doormat these days, and victims of very concerted deception efforts get called idiots for being deceived.
I remember an Ask Reddit for people that cheated. Most of them were in an abusive or manipulative relationship of some kind, yet most still felt guilty for acting out. Some chose to cheat and be caught because everything else they tried to get away hadn’t worked—obviiusly even that didn’t work in some cases.
Yeah but those aren’t usually the people who get the reddit stories specifically about them,
Honestly I think that explains the phenomenon, it’s a reporter effect, everyone lashes out so hard at cheaters because the ones they hear about aren’t deliberately trying to escape a toxic relationship, they’re selfish and narcissistic or lead into that mindset enough to destroy someone else’s life over it.
Honestly I just think it’s a sign that we need more supporting resources available to people, like state run shelters and stuff, because not being able to find security if they leave is what traps so many people in abusive relationships to begin with.
And yet all the comments lament how unfair family court is to men, as if that isn’t also a reporting effect caused by the specific kind of guy who’s wife would drag him into family court instead of mediating.
There’s certainly discrepancies in what either gender can get away with more often than the other, but folks sure seem paranoid about the Boogeyman of a false accusation in an environment where victims have to borderline hound police into even testing their kits.
Also the sheer level of sadism that comes out in a relationships story about infidelity
Everything short of admitting to fantasizing about murdering the cheater gets you called a doormat these days, and victims of very concerted deception efforts get called idiots for being deceived.
Don’t take creative writing subs seriously my friend
which is pretty much every sub for the past 20 years so don’t take anything on reddit seriously
Jerry’s line always cracks me up
“If you ever cheat on me with him I’ll blow my brains out all over your beautiful bodies”
I remember an Ask Reddit for people that cheated. Most of them were in an abusive or manipulative relationship of some kind, yet most still felt guilty for acting out. Some chose to cheat and be caught because everything else they tried to get away hadn’t worked—obviiusly even that didn’t work in some cases.
Yeah but those aren’t usually the people who get the reddit stories specifically about them,
Honestly I think that explains the phenomenon, it’s a reporter effect, everyone lashes out so hard at cheaters because the ones they hear about aren’t deliberately trying to escape a toxic relationship, they’re selfish and narcissistic or lead into that mindset enough to destroy someone else’s life over it.
Honestly I just think it’s a sign that we need more supporting resources available to people, like state run shelters and stuff, because not being able to find security if they leave is what traps so many people in abusive relationships to begin with.
Dude it’s absurdly gendered too.
Woman does something wrong in a 15 year marriage: “dump her, take the kids, empty the bank account. She’s psychotic.”
Man does something super sketchy a week into a relationship: “relationships take work.”
And yet all the comments lament how unfair family court is to men, as if that isn’t also a reporting effect caused by the specific kind of guy who’s wife would drag him into family court instead of mediating.
There’s certainly discrepancies in what either gender can get away with more often than the other, but folks sure seem paranoid about the Boogeyman of a false accusation in an environment where victims have to borderline hound police into even testing their kits.
Too true. They say things that “sound right” and don’t even look at the stats on this stuff