It’s all about delivery of the message and “reading the room”.
In my own neurodivergent experiences, those two “tricks” I mentioned above are damn near impossible.
In all cases that I have had issues with helping someone, I usually failed at asking myself the following:
Did the person ask for assistance, or, did I ask if they needed assistance?
Did I pre-judge that person’s intelligence level (or lack of intelligence…)?
Was the person already frustrated and I failed to notice?
Could I potentially make the overall situation worse if I interject?
Am I actually walking down the street of a large city where interacting with random strangers might not be healthy? (/s)
Over my years of failing at interaction, I have built mental flow chart of how to interact with others. It doesn’t always work and that is OK!
TBH, I kind of loosely define this is an internalized derivative of “masking”, but not unhealthy. I have my own little checklists that I can think about and tweak. Failure is always an option and an opportunity to learn how to interact with others better next time.
Yess! This is a fantastic comment, and so kind and thoughtful of you to write it out and share what’s helped you. :) I try to go through the same mental checklist type thing, too. It definitely helps.
It’s all about delivery of the message and “reading the room”.
In my own neurodivergent experiences, those two “tricks” I mentioned above are damn near impossible.
In all cases that I have had issues with helping someone, I usually failed at asking myself the following:
Over my years of failing at interaction, I have built mental flow chart of how to interact with others. It doesn’t always work and that is OK!
TBH, I kind of loosely define this is an internalized derivative of “masking”, but not unhealthy. I have my own little checklists that I can think about and tweak. Failure is always an option and an opportunity to learn how to interact with others better next time.
Yess! This is a fantastic comment, and so kind and thoughtful of you to write it out and share what’s helped you. :) I try to go through the same mental checklist type thing, too. It definitely helps.
“/s not /s”