How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I’m not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I’m ruminating. I don’t have many people to go to about this. Please don’t say I will find someone else, because I can’t go there right now. And I know it won’t happen anyway.

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    11 months ago

    I sulk for a while while covered in my sadness. When I had a little more strength to come out my sadness what helped me the most is “Yes Man” attitude. I like watching movies but my previous relationship is holding me back, I would go by myself to the movies. Who decided that a nice dinner date needs to be 2 or more. One night after work I feel like eating nacho and a beer, I went to a lounge and ate me amazing warm nacho. I saw a ballet show that’s cheap and for charity, well let’s check it out. I heard fringe is in town, one ticket for me please. I haven’t seen Northern lights well no one is stopping me now. I studied how to read the forecast and found a dark spot out of town. Hmm, how about shooting stars, well there are so much chance in the year to catch it. No need to plan with someone else. Then eventually I have dozens of solo hobbies and just acceptance of the of past. It took me 4 years to be on a relationship but I would say that 4 years of hobbies was fun. Edit: I didn’t actively avoid relationship but I didn’t seek it. I tried tinder and plenty of fish but figured out it’s not for me then I went back to my list of hobbies. I took up photography, kayaking, a friend ask me to go to cabin, we’ll sure! Friends invited me for a vacation, Hmm it’s cheaper if I come early and come home late, I can join their rental then I tried hostel, which was a fantastic choice. I enjoyed the place more with saying yes to the hostel tours than the planned friends days.