in my experience
Just thinking about an interaction today. It’s pretty interesting how I tell the average person (especially males) a story where i’m the victim and they immediately intensely victim blame me.
This is probably largely due to rock bottom low positive sentiment of the person directed towards me. I don’t know why i talk to some of people i talk to. At least when i think about it. I’m pretty sure i have higher standard for which internet acquaintances i talk to regularly then irl acquaintances. If it’s an internet interaction, if i establish they’re uhh unsuitable i don’t talk to them anymore, and maybe i should do that irl for acquintances?
Obv if you vets someone as being good company, they don’t victim blame you.
What I’ve been trying to learn about more is emotional intelligence. I started this process back in 2008. To explain, my wife had just become pregnant with our first child and I had no idea how to raise a human being. Naturally, for me at least, I hit the libraries and bookstores so fucking hard. I spent months pouring over child psychology and the like. Overwhelmingly, what was resounding from academia, was this notion of emotional intelligence.
In almost every peer-reviewed article and popular child psychology book EI (or EQ) was by far the most important. So, how do you learn or teach this? In a nutshell, talk about your feelings and be willing to listen to anyone else’s feelings.
My wife and I have tried to do this, as best as we can, between ourselves and our children for the past 14 years. So far, we can’t argue against these findings and our family is happy, well-adjusted and we all have successful relationships between ourselves and in our community.
As someone who somewhat raised themself, thanks a lot for putting in the effort!!! Which might sounds like a strange thing to say, but do you get why I appreciate hearing that you put in the effort?
All the readings helped? I read psychology today articles with consistency and they talk about these kind of things sometimes. I read through them for the same reason you do, self improvement
Right! Self improvement equaled improvement for my family. Absolutely.