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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • I loved them, I miss them dearly, but no, I don’t think they’ll come back.

    A lot has changed and the internet is not the same, for better and for worse. For one, it’s just a lot bigger. You’d think that’d make it easier, but it seems to make it harder. There’s too much noise for the communities to stand out, so what usually happens is one or two get huge and the others dwindle and die. Even just look at Lemmy, through no fault of your own, Beehaw is becoming one of the largest instances and it requires active work to spread the weight across the rest of the federation. People gravitate I guess.

    Plus, because it’s so much bigger, there’s less of an identity in the spaces that do survive. Post in any reddit thread, then go to another. Chances are nobody’ll be the same (except for a few superusers) so there’s no real sense of belonging or community that the old forums had. Back then you trolled your friends, not strangers.









  • On the point of servers not being connected - by default an instance will federate with all other instances. Admins have the ability to add a whitelist (only connect to these instances) or blacklist (connect to everything except these).

    There are some unsavoury instances out there that don’t mesh with the Beehaw philosophy so they’re blocked.

    The nice thing is you can run your own instance and federate with everyone if you don’t like the idea of blocking instances. You might find others will block you if they don’t agree with your content but that’s their choice.




  • You don’t need to be out to explain why it’s okay to be LGBTQ+. If those questions ever come, answer them as if you were an ally. The answer is the same anyway.

    But right now don’t stress - not every religious organisation will be homophobic, I went to a Catholic secondary school (UK) that was supportive. Unless you’re familiar with this particular group already they might not be as bad as you think.

    As for what you can do personally, if you’re atheist (and open about that) then show her you don’t have to be Christian to have good morals. Just generally be a good older sibling. Hopefully it all works out.