I think it would also be nice for there to be default blocklists, or at least some easy-to-access blocklists to import. After I joined Lemmy, I spent a lot of time blocking basically every single community in my feed that was dedicated solely either to memes or to news and politics. The thing is, I want politics in my feed, it’s just that the social environment in big politics communities here tends to feel not very conducive to in-depth political discussion or to topics other than the top 3 or so topics on Lemmy users’ minds at any given moment.

I imagine many new Lemmy users probably join and get overwhelmed by all the memes and politics flooding their timelines, and then many of them just leave. I don’t blame them. It’s a lot of effort to filter your timeline to remove what you don’t want, and there’s no guarantee that at the end of the process there will still be anything remaining that you like. So I wish that newcomers who want to filter out the loudest communities didn’t have to repeat the work of creating a new blocklist each time, but rather that there be publicized, easy-to-find blocklists to enable people to easily customize their feeds upon joining.

Ultimately, only you can decide what labels apply to yourself. But to me, your experiences sound a lot like you may be asexual and demiromantic (and heteroromantic). I suggest learning more about those labels, in order to better understand yourself and learn from people with similar experiences. Understanding yourself better could, for example, help you be able to clearly describe what you want in a relationship and find relationships that suit you.

There is an extensive resource about asexuality here: https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/. I don’t have any personal advice to offer you because my experiences are very different from yours. But, in general, know this: attraction is complex. Romantic and sexual attraction are distinct and do not necessarily imply one another. It is possible to have a queer sexual or romantic orientation and also be heterosexual or heteroromantic. (And not all attraction fits neatly into the categories of “sexual” and “romantic”. It’s just that this is the most convenient for me to phrase it right now.)

You can see a list of all the interviews here, sorted by subject here. Transcripts are included for each interview. (I realized that it may be a bit hard to find those links to the interviews from the front page of the site.)