Just curious to know how many mods here are

  • A. still “here” and active
  • B. here but given up due to lack of momentum, interest
  • C. abandoned platform completely
  • D. just waiting for the 1 year mark and praying new users and posters will continue to come
  • E. other? (like only relying at alternative matrix chat)

I’ll be happy to see more than 10 responses from this dead community 😉

[Update 11/18]: glad to see comments, feedback, much more than I expected. Also see the modlog for actions taken. Just wanted to point out a couple of threads:

[Update Nov 20] : WRT downvoting - see https://lemmynsfw.com/post/4581685

  • yay@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    34·
    7 months ago

    Wow its been 6 months? I remember the first day trying to promote it on other instances 😄

  • Miauu@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    28·
    7 months ago

    I’m a bit sad about the amount of posting, but reddit is full of OnlyFans promotion, commercial crap. And they will get rid of NSFW subs sooner or later. They have to because their prudish investors will demand it when they go to the stock market.

    I think LemmyNSFW is poised to take up the slack. I’m sad that most Lemmy instances block this LemmyNSFW though. The idea was to be like Reddit.

    • deliciouslytacky@lemmynsfw.com
      English
      71·
      7 months ago

      Same, the niche communities I follow really only merit checking in weekly. Can’t wait until it really takes off and rivals the content on reddit, because I’m not going back

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      62·
      7 months ago

      Perhaps you may want to volunteer to mod/take over some communities that have been abandoned? Or even help.out at existing active ones…

      • cryptowing@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        11·
        7 months ago

        I’ll think about it, I’m still not used to this whole lemmy stuff. Any list of communities that needs help? Or is everything open?

  • JaffnaCakes@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
    201·
    7 months ago

    Still here but nearly given up. I’m responsible for >75% of the content on the sub I mod, there seems to be very little interest or interaction otherwise and I get shot down every time I try and branch out.

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      17·
      7 months ago

      from a quick glance, your community seems to be doing well. Please don’t give up. Try cross posting to other communities also to get more visibility for your posts/comm

      I get shot down every time I try and branch out.

      Can you elaborate on this particular comment?

      • JaffnaCakes@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        61·
        7 months ago

        I’m trying to keep it going but at times I’m the only one posting, or we get a flurry of Reddit reposts and then nothing again. Just feels a bit futile.

        With shot down, I mean I did try posting to other communities but there was either no interest, or people got a bit territorial. Had one fracas where someone followed me round reporting everything I posted so in the end I gave up.

        • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
          2·
          7 months ago

          You are doing good with new attempts.

          Just Fyi that you might find useful too - see https://lemmynsfw.com/post/4557625.

          Crosspostings can be a hit or miss, just try to be very aware about the destination community’s unique rules. Afaik, most general communities will welcome relevant content if you are not over posting into it.

          Just an addition/caution to also be aware about LemmyNSFW instance-wide rule 2, when posting unidentified or unattributed models and content. Just please make sure to stay away from potential revenge porn or stuff where age verification can’t be provided - just don’t want you to get into hot water…

          (Rule Two) Respect and Consent: Treat all members with respect and obtain consent when sharing explicit content involving others. No doxxing.

          • JaffnaCakes@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
            1·
            7 months ago

            Cheers. I did have a go at crossposting, but wasn’t sure how successful it was. Besides, posting a new and different picture to each community brings fresh content and hopefully avoids spamming everyone’s feed.

            I hear you regarding Rule 2. It’s the difficulty with posting non-OC, I have absolutely no idea what has been shared and why (and even the seemingly professional material, between copyright or a GDP type situation I can’t just assume permission). So I try and use my judgement, only post pics that are already freely available on the web, nothing overtly revenge like and we blocked the “upvote and I’ll leak the rest” type posts. Same with age, best judgement is the best I can do.

    • Miauu@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      7·
      7 months ago

      What do you mean shot down?

      But I don’t follow your sub because I only like OC and I don’t have preferences for particular nationalities/ethnicities (or even genders for that matter). I like everyone. So I wouldn’t follow “IndianGirls”. It’s too specific for me. Kudos for running it though for those who are into it! Just trying to say why I didn’t subscribe (I’m just new but anyway).

      • JaffnaCakes@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        5·
        7 months ago

        That’s cool, we want people to follow what they like. I try and keep it fairly broad, see what catches people’s interest. Though the lack of other contributors means the community mainly reflects mine (or my mates) tastes. We do have one OC poster but she gets massively downvoted for some reason.

  • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
    14·
    7 months ago

    Here, on B. Tried getting anyone in any of the communities to engage at all. Averaging one response per week or so, which is quite disheartening, and makes it quite tedious to post daily…

    Got an actual thoughtful reply on a thread about a week ago, so I’ll see if I can keep it going a bit longer for them

    • Ahornygirl@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      5·
      7 months ago

      Bummer, I always enjoy your posts, but understand what it must be like to post without any engagement. I’m one of the guilty ones who doesn’t often say anything, just press the little Up arrow.

      • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        11·
        7 months ago

        Thank you for replying here.

        You have commented though! I both remember and appreciate your replies.

        You seem to mostly enjoy giving reactions, is there anything I can do to help that?

        Maybe put a little more description or prompt to paint a fantasy?

          • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
            2·
            7 months ago

            I’ll see what we can do. It’s not the way I consume the content, but I can always try new things.

            Maybe we could have a fantasy nanowriting thing? Something like max 50 words, prompted by the post?

    • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      4·
      7 months ago

      For what it’s worth, I almost always appreciate your posts! We have a lot of kink overlap and, funny enough, I don’t normally run into interesting ties in my day to day life 😆

      • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        21·
        7 months ago

        Thank you!

        And I’ve appreciated your comments whenever they are given!

        I would like to invite some kind of sharing, discussion, or other interaction in the communities. Anything like a human connection, and preferably a good enough one to have people coming back for it.

        Do you have any ideas? What keeps you engaging?

        • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
          2·
          7 months ago

          At things stage I largely comment on OC. Mostly just to encourage it to keep being posted because it’s pretty sparse at this point on this platform and gets drowned out by pic collectors. Commenting is the best way to keep visibility high, as I’m sure you’re aware.

          Commenting on OC is easy because you can default to observation and flattery. Commenting on non-OC content is more difficult so you’ll always be at a disadvantage. I need to either have a photo deeply resonate with me or maybe a question on my end or very specific comment on an element that I appreciate.

          For me, I have a long-term partner who is not very into exploring boundaries and likes to keep things simple. Because of this I really only have experience with simple restraints. If you post an artistic picture of a complex restraint, a lot of that subtlety will probably be lost on me even if I still can appreciate that it’s a cool thing I like that I cannot or will not ever do. It’s difficult to leave a comment about something that you don’t fully understand though and if my best reaction is “Cool!” I’m likely to just upvote and not say anything because I don’t feel I have anything of value to contribute.

          If your goal is to interact with other people with a similar interest, my suggestion would be to leave a bit of information as to what attracted you to that specific image in the description. This gives someone an opportunity to connect and a bit of information to latch onto and comment on. Sellers use engagement-baits for a reason - they work. The community is small right now so I don’t know how many fish will bite, but it might increase your odds.

          • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
            2·
            7 months ago

            Thank you, and I appreciate the effort and care put into your reply.

            I’ll take this on board and see what I can come up with. The idea isn’t so much to get engagement on any individual post, but to get some sort of community interaction, to which I suspect the daily image posts are probably largely unhelpful.

            Because as you describe, it’s a high barrier to interact beyond a reaction, and even harder to interact with the community rather than the post/graphic.

            But your perspectives do remind me that we could have this discussion in each respective comm, and maybe the crowd will have wisdom on how to proceed. Thank you!

  • yeuxprives@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
    174·
    7 months ago

    The amount of kink shaming in this thread is disappointing.

    One of my kinks is young, beautiful, ladies. None of these ladies would ever want to have anything to do with me. The are a fantasy. At the same time I have no interest in anyone underaged. I go to great extents to make sure what I post is legal. There are a number of studios from Brazil, Columbia, Japan, Vietnam, and China that I would love to post from, but they don’t legally or structurally provide 18 USC 2257 confirmation.

    When it comes to OC content, the most important aspect of any model to me is her face/eyes. It is what I look at first in any photo. This by itself eliminates a large portion of OC content for me. Further as a professional photographer, the light, composition, and concept of the photo are important. These aspects are often missing or poorly understood in OC content. Thats ok. For those that like OC content, I am glad it is here for you.

    As to the original question, A for now.

    On to the problems.

    I tend to post large images. I stay under what are the poorly documented limits. Often in posting an image it will fail with an error message that makes no sense. (SyntaxError: Unexpected token ‘R’, “Request er”… is not valid JSON) Many times, simply reposting the same image works. On other images, which have a smaller height and width (in pixels), and take up less storage (in MB) than what I have found as practical maximums, they just will not post. (Yes, I have posted this as an issue on the lemmy-ui GitHub.)

    Lemmy in general, and LemmyNSFW in specific are much harder than reddit or other historical platforms to explore, and find the material you enjoy. Part of this is most posters are only posting in one or a very few communities. On reddit, I would find someone who was posting stuff I liked, I would click on their profile and use that to find other subreddits I would like. Additionally many subreddits, would have a list of “our friends” in the side bar, which is very rare here.

    Staying on exploration, the search tools in the default web UI (simply navigating to https://lemmynsfw.com/ in a browser) are lacking. The only way to improve this is to make suggestions / get invoked with the development of the code. There are also, that I am aware of no communities like r/NSFW411/ or r/wowthissubexists/ (specifically the Fap Friday Thread) to help with finding new stuff.

    As to the front page, whether you sort by active or hot what you tend to see is stuff that was recently posted. As there are a few posters, bots or not, that tend to post 15+ posts at a given time, those are what dominate the front page. If it is stuff you like, great, if not… Since this is generated automatically by Lemmy, you either need to come up with and code a new algorithm, throttle posting, or get more active posters.

    As a final note, to the admins of LemmyNSFW and all the mods and posters who contribute. Thank You very much.

    • VmI0Z8i1q6DJ@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      3·
      7 months ago

      There are also, that I am aware of no communities like r/NSFW411/

      The ownership of [email protected] was given to me by the original owner because of my attempt at making an r/NSFW411 equivalent for lemmy.

      I was hoping there would be more people giving feedback or recommending new communities to add to it. (But so far there was only one person requesting to remove a community from a category.)

      Edit: I also agree with the first part of your post. If everyone involved is 18+ and it’s consensual, what’s the problem?

      • yeuxprives@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        3·
        7 months ago

        My apologies, I did see nsfw411 when I first started on lemmy.

        I was going over in my head what I wanted to say, and thinking about how I found stuff on reddit. I remembered NSFW411 and wowthissubexists, and ended up writing that paragraph, without doing my due diligence.

      • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
        2·
        7 months ago

        I have to admit this is the first I’ve heard of your [email protected] . will check out later.
        I know rhere are pending requests/actions that are on admins’ radar to do cleanup, resolve abandoned communities’ mod ownership, etc., but everybody is too busy so I’m just being patient.

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      2·
      7 months ago

      Regarding posting of large images: AFAIK, nothing has changed since this update https://lemmynsfw.com/comment/626043 - max size remains 4096x4096 and supposedly 20MB.

      It is true that very large images (filesize wise) may run into issues with timeouts when uploading… For myself - I try to compress my images for direct uploads to LemmyNSFW down to a manageable 2-4 MB range… Anything above that, I use lensdumps.com or imgchest.com hosting, simply to save my own bandwidth/usage also when I post to multiple places.

  • WooBoy@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    131·
    7 months ago

    Not a mod, but a new user from Reddit. I’m the husband of an MF bbw couple. We’ve enjoyed posting ourselves on reddit over the years.

    I was happy to see there was an NSFW Lemmy instance. I’m also happy to see that it’s well moderated.

    There doesn’t yet seem to be a critical mass of people here. We’re not conventionally attractive people, but on reddit there were numerous places we could feel welcomed and hot.

    That’s not the case here.

    There’s a bbw community here I’ve started posting in. I tried a few other places, but ended up getting more downvotes than upvotes. That doesn’t feel good when we’re just here to show off.

    I’m planning on sticking around for a while, hopefully some more plus-size lovers come around here soon 😘

    • Rubenesque@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      101·
      7 months ago

      We’re out there, waiting for content. Actually the lack of content in those areas has spawned a conversation between my partner and myself to start making our own to post here. Like you all, we are unconventionally attractive, and quite comfortable with our own skin/wants/desires. Just trying to navigate the groundwork between us to post online comfortably.

      • WooBoy@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        31·
        7 months ago

        Just trying to navigate the groundwork between us to post online comfortably.

        Take your time. Hopefully you can find something that works for you.

        The fun we get out of posting ourselves is the biggest reason we do it!

      • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
        31·
        7 months ago

        Please hang in there. Feel free to start up a new community if one doesn’t exist, or volunteer to help mod at existing ones that interests you. You can help change the tenor and culture of body shaming that goes on by trolls brigade-voting.

        Modding and growing communities sometimes is “hard” work, but very rewarding once you meet friends and like-minded folks.

      • WooBoy@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        51·
        7 months ago

        Thanks for the link to the thread, I added my opinion.

        Unfortunately, gender, body and kink shaming remains very prevalent…

        I can see that. It seems like getting rid of downvotes would be worth trying to help combat this.

  • lemmyposter212@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
    12·
    7 months ago

    Lemmy as a whole is slowly growing, we’ve continually seen an uptick in posts here, and improvements in the UI and source code. I have faith that it will continue to grow, slowly but surely.

    I check my reports and then go about my day for the most part. I don’t have time to be super active and I myself don’t want to be fully engrossed in nsfw content every day lol.

    But I do plan to start promoting Lemmy more on my subs on Reddit. I’ve seen some people begin to do it without pushback so I’ll be doing it too.

    Edit: Forgot to add: Right now we are seeing mostly mainstream pages get posts and not much on the more niche pages. That’s normal, that’s how reddit was for awhile, growth takes time and will come.

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      3·
      7 months ago

      That’s normal, that’s how reddit was for awhile, growth takes time and will come.

      Very true. It’s not realistic to expect that LemmyNSFW will become Reddit within a year. I like building up niche communities slowly - and only post/crosspost to mainstream comms occasionally though.

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      2·
      7 months ago

      But I do plan to start promoting Lemmy more on my subs on Reddit. I’ve seen some people begin to do it without pushback

      Reddit auto-removes any mention of LemmyNSFW links in user comments - I just tried recently and the auto remove happened within 10 minutes. DMs and mod mail are not touched currently so that is how I try to reach folks individually. I’ve also taken to captioning images with relevant LemmyNSFW comm names for stuff I post at Reddit…

      • lemmyposter212@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
        2·
        7 months ago

        I’m a mod on subs so I was going to put an automod message, things that have worked there are using a URL shortener or linking to a wiki page with the url

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      313·
      7 months ago

      I’m sure you (or your baseless exaggerations) won’t be missed here 😉. Seriously though, you have the freedom and choice to balance out all my Matty posts with content you like… Go for it rather than spending your time complaining…

  • SockyFeet@lemmynsfw.comMEnglish
    11·
    7 months ago

    Kinda A, and also a little D. It’s disheartening to see new comms continuing to appear that cater to evermore niche interests, instead of people having the restraint and good sense to cooperate towards reaching critical mass on much broader subject comms first. Also, I’m still not exactly loving the UX on desktop (my primary interface) even with LemmyTools, but recently found the Connect for Lemmy app in the Play Store and that’s helped keep me checking in regularly in spare moments during the day from my phone.

      • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        6·
        7 months ago

        Some interests are niche enough to be a turn off to a general audience though. When a new user shows up for the very first time and only sees two dozen hentai feet pics or whoever the fuck Matty Perez is as their entire feed it can be confusing. When they need to actively seek out content with general appeal it will make it seem like this is essentially only a fetish community. At a certain point it does become a detracting factor towards attracting new users.

        I agree that these things take time and that there will be more waves of new users once porn bans are in place on larger platforms, but unless there is a stable amount of content with general appeal as a ‘hook’ to keep people coming back it will be difficult to see any real growth.

        In my opinion this entire instance seems to be having an identity crisis. It’s trying to emulate too many different platforms at once without having the user base to successfully do this.

          • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
            11·
            7 months ago

            You’re right that the default sorting being local-active definitely doesn’t help. The new user experience for Lemmy in general has issues at its core unfortunately. Setting communities as default is an easy solution, but would have its own set of issues.

            I don’t think it’s a bad solution to have defaults, but it would require pretty clear and heavy moderation, likely from admins themselves. This would also have the secondary effect of forcing admins to take a stance on what kind of content should primarily be on the instance. All of this also ignores how feasible something like that would be across all the varying apps and front ends, which I have no idea.

      • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
        41·
        7 months ago

        Very true about Rome not built in a day. I don’t have any grandiose expectations, and I post here what I like, and if others enjoy the same, good. I spent over 5 years helping Reddit slowly grow along with the various subreddits I started from scratch and growth there was also slow and steady until the pandemic growth spurt came - so 6 months here is a good start. I spend only a quarter of my time now on Reddit just keeping various subs alive, and to raise awareness about LemmyNSFW to redditors.

    • b9999998@lemmynsfw.comOPMEnglish
      21·
      7 months ago

      Connect is good, but I’ve switched to using Boost for Lemmy (I had been a boost app user on Reddit so I like the familiar look and feel), for posting and browsing.

      [Update: I’m not promoting, just a long time happy paid user of the Boost app: see improvements https://lemmynsfw.com/post/4259177]

      I use the default browser UX mainly for modding. BTW, this default browser UI is the only experience afaik currently that allows tracking of crosspostings (example , so that I don’t end up duplicating what’s already posted

      Also the autofill/complete when typing in community names starting with the ! is a big plus.

  • BigMcLargeHuge@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    10·
    7 months ago

    I’m still at A. I try to post content to my main community once a day, occasionally other users (mainly Keralewd) post content which is great.