When questioning your intentions as arrogant, entitled, immature vs confident, moral right, correctness. Or even questioning if the Duning Kruger effect is at play.
What process do you incorporate to back-up your self-judgement or in identifying your decisions/choices are in-fact “correct” in online discussions and/or personal life with friends/family.
How do you remove “self-doubt”?
Yeah, I also tend to log everything that is supporting my argument. But, it definitely feels like it could be worse “gathering evidence” sometimes. Especially if the topic is around self-improvement rather than something objective.
If the topic isn’t objective then I try to keep in mind that just because something makes me uncomfortable or I disagree with it, that doesn’t automatically make it wrong or me right. I have to contemplate why I disagree and whether it’s something that actually affects me or just something that rubs me the wrong way for no good reason. And if something does bother me, is it productive in any way to make that known to others or should I just keep that to myself? And even if it bothers me, does that mean other people should be bothered by it too? If yes, then why? Is it a morality thing, or just a personal preference thing? Then even if it is a morality thing, I don’t have to try to make it an argument or a fight, instead I can just try to get my own views across and explain my reasoning for the other person to make of what they will. Doesn’t mean I never get mad or into fights, but I try to usually just give the energy I get.