Preface: This thread is less about asking for reasons to stay/go, and more of an attempt to not feel alone.

We have the means and opportunity to leave the United States in the near future. As much as we don’t want to upturn our lives, we also want to live free.

Reasons to go:

• We are not confident that the current political order will do anything but make life worse for trans people
• We are not confident that any political order in the next few elections would try and help trans people
• Living in the USA with documents that don’t match gender identity is a red line for us
• It’s clear that the USA has been like this for some time. It just happens to be our turn

Reasons to stay:

• We live in a safe area of a “safe for now” state (Counter-counter: for now)
• We recently settled down here, thinking it would be for the rest of our lives (Counter-counter: It’s “just” material stuff)
• We have queer friends whom we’d be leaving behind
• Why should we disappear from our homeland without a fight? (Counter-counter: What kind of fight do we have the physical/mental energy to put up?)
• The places to which we can escape could just as easily turn against us

Has anyone else been wrestling with this? Most of our queer friends do not have the means to consider flight like we do. Additionally, our non-queer friends who would have the means don’t see the same danger signs that we do. It just doesn’t seem like we have anyone to talk to about this.