• Corgana@startrek.website
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    8 hours ago

    Why does the other persons energy matter? If someone requests not to be called something and you continue to call them that then you are kinda being a jerk.

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      6 hours ago

      Cause it’s rude. Like correcting grammar in a conversation. Both would be equally rude.

      Nobody wants to be told that what they’ve learned and have been taught to them their whole life is now an offense. Just like nobody wants to be misgendered on purpose.

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          5 hours ago

          Being told you’re an idiot and everything you’ve learned is wrong in front of others is “yikes”

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            5 hours ago

            Or you could’ve simply gone “cool no worries didn’t mean anything by it” and move on not using the word instead of demanding they let you continue to do it.

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              4 hours ago

              “The earth is flat”. “Ok, cool. Didn’t mean anything by it.”

              A bit hyperbolic, but that is how i imagine it sounds to older people. Perspective goes both ways.

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                4 hours ago

                I’m just going to ignore how much of a stretch that is to compare and indulge it anyway.

                You know what you do when someone says something stupid like that? You don’t engage it at a table full of people unless you all know each other pretty well and you think the relationship can handle it unless you’re just kind of a rude person who doesn’t mind publicly shaming people when there is nothing at stake, which is a little weird.

                Most people like that get ignored when in-person and it’s the best way to go about it. Engaging them is what they want. They want to defend their position, they want to feel persecuted, and they want to share whatever XxpatriotxX shared on YouTube the night before.

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                  4 hours ago

                  But the post talks about a party, where the person feeling that they are correct feel justified in talking down to someone else in front of everybody. Good that we agree that publically lecturing is rude.

                  Eventually all of us will be labeled as intolerant, or as having being intolerant according to the changing sensibilities. I can just say that i try to not be rude to individuals or their intellect, but i also don’t really care if people are generally offended by ‘things’. Unless they went out of their way to diminish another person, and what that entails differs depending on the origin of ‘the offender’.