At 31, I have had 6-10 sexual partners (depending on what counts), half guys, half girls. My female partners (including one transfem) were mostly interested in long-term relationships, as am I. My male partners were all hookups with no follow-up, much to my disappointment. As I am now actively looking for a boyfriend, are there any special considerations when courting men, as opposed to women, for this purpose?

  • lazyneet@programming.devOP
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    5 days ago

    A decade ago this was less true, but dating apps on smartphones seem to be, as you say, for hookups. I just find it appealing to have a menu, which seems like an efficient way to select partners.

    May I ask, how did you meet your husband?

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      4 days ago

      I met my husband in real life. We knew each other like 5 year before but fell out of touch, and a mutual friends had said something along the line lines of “You’re gay now? That’s weird, because I think that ______ said they’re bi now?”
      Their phrasing could have been better, but it worked out in the end.

      I have dated guys off of sites that were used mostly for hook-ups. I put that I was open to dating on my profile, having non-sexual pictures as well as nudes. If someone opened with “nice cock” you know what they’re after, but I was always sure that it was clear about what the situation was before we met up.