I’m part of the problem, because I keep replying and giving you an audience, so consider this my last reply.
When someone is raising an issue, and you’re considering if you want to expand or generalize the topic, ask yourself “will the person with the issue benefit from what I’m about to say?”
If they wont, and they’re not hurting anyone, then maybe stfu, especially if you inhabit a position of power, in society, relative to them. If it’s still important to you, then go start another conversation elsewhere.
In this case, they won’t, and you probably do, and you insisted on speaking up here anyways, which makes you just like all the dudes trying to make this about themselves. You do not pass the vibe check.
I’ll just say again that for the original comment that this is about, leaving aside anything I wrote, that demand is not justified, and I don’t regret pushing back on it.
There are conversations where it’s better to just leave it, but I don’t see this as one of them.
I’m part of the problem, because I keep replying and giving you an audience, so consider this my last reply.
When someone is raising an issue, and you’re considering if you want to expand or generalize the topic, ask yourself “will the person with the issue benefit from what I’m about to say?”
If they wont, and they’re not hurting anyone, then maybe stfu, especially if you inhabit a position of power, in society, relative to them. If it’s still important to you, then go start another conversation elsewhere.
In this case, they won’t, and you probably do, and you insisted on speaking up here anyways, which makes you just like all the dudes trying to make this about themselves. You do not pass the vibe check.
I’ll just say again that for the original comment that this is about, leaving aside anything I wrote, that demand is not justified, and I don’t regret pushing back on it.